Marriage: Do you get tips?

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  1. Gina B

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    Do you, as a pastor, charge people you marry, or do you have them tip you? Or do you charge and expect a tip?

    How much is the average expected tip?
     
  2. Tom Bryant

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    Don't charge any church member for the ceremony. Never heard of a tip.

    The standard joke is that we tell the groom that they should give the pastor whatever they think she is worth. :tongue3:
     
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    I charge 10% of what they are spending on the wedding reception. :tongue3:

    I do not set a fee. I tell the couple that an honorarium is usually offered and that I would not insult their generosity by refusing it.
     
  4. preachinjesus

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    I don't have a set honorarium for ceremonies. If someone asks I refer them to our wedding coordinator or their wedding coordinator. Usually its anywhere from $100-$200.

    If a couple is scraping by I will make sure my gift to them equals or exceeds their honorarium if they give one.
     
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    Dh has performed one wedding. It was an impromptu deal, very informal, and they gave him a $40 honorarium.
     
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    Performed a few.. .no charge.... no gifts...

    But I make up the difference at the funerals!!!! ROFL!
     
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    Even when there is no fee, often people will put a few dollars in a plain envelope for the pastor. I guess one has to accept it, or just give it to the church. Would that be a "tip"?

    Cheers,

    Jim
     

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