We have a senior couple that started visiting our church that I went to visit and they lived together. They told me they never have sexual relations because of physical problems and age and they live in seperate rooms. They asked if I would marry them in God's eyes but not the states since she would lose $1000 month. I told them that the bible says that that the two shall become one flesh and we should obey our government but that I would pray about it. I also told them they couldn't become members until we work this out. She wants to sing in the choir and he wants to help with some things. Some are complaining about letting them sing and serve. Should we let them as long as it is not a leadership position? Someone also said he curses outside the church and I noticed he said a word or two when I met him before he came to the church. I know the Bible says let everything that has breath praise the Lord but it also says to judge the inside and that God hates the songs of the disobedient. Any advice? This is my first pastorate and I have never had anything like this before!