Marriage

I believe I said that a "disadvantage" is that nothing you do is for yourself. You should let that sink in. Worrying about time, money or freesom is all about yourself.

You say you're "disabled." If it's a genetic defect serious enough to worry about your progeny, perhaps you shouldn't marry. Being single offers a tremendous advantage in the work of the Gospel. If you have the gift of celibacy, if you find you can contain your desires, you would do well to remain unmarried. But if you're finding that you can't contain your desires, then marriage offers a tremendous advantage—though its not the best reason to be seeking a mate.

 

All excellent advice. I will just add a few things. The first that comes to mind is Aaron's advice about parents. The time to listen to parents is before you get married. After you get married, you are a seperate family. You know, a man shall leave his mother and father.

Anyway, after you get married, you two are the parents, and you raise your kids as the Lord leads, not as a grandparent wants. Another thing is that you must agree on money. There needs to be a clear understanding between the couple about saving, givng, debt, and who will handle the money. There is also no room for deception in this area, such as hiding money or secret credit cards. I do think the woman should have a small seperate account in case she has to take care of herself on short notice.

Another area that agreement is good before marriage is how many kids and how they are to be raised.

Just a few thoughts.

 

I don't even have to read any more posts. This is the ultimate answer.

Preach it Brother!

Bill

 

Anytime it's about you, then it's not a godly biblicaly based marriage.

 

I honestly can't think of any cons. My life is 100% better since God blessed me with a wife. That is not to say that my life wasn't fulfilling without a wife. But, oh how much more with a Ms. SAG by my side.

 

My wife and I have been married for 32 years, some good years some not so good, the money comes and goes ( goes faster than it comes ) But for all the times good or bad we had them together, She is not only my wife but my best friend,I would be lost without her.

 

I can't think of any disadvantages to being married. I love my honey bunny, my sugar booger, my sweetie peetie! :smilewinkgrin:

 

Except for me of course. The lucky woman that married me has no negatives in her marriage.

This is what she looks like every time she sets eyes on me.

 

Lets see, I will think about it and get back to you in the morning. It seems like a smug attitude has gotten me in trouble at times during the last 32 years.