Marrying Outside of Your Faith

Okay, how about this (fictitious) example - Mom is a Baptist, Dad is Church of Christ. First they attend COC in AM but Mom will not take weekly communion - only once a month; Sun PM they attend Baptist church. A couple years later they have a son. When Tommy is six he is saved on Friday night VBS. On Sunday Tommy is (the only one) to be baptized. Dad is very pleased. Mom wants Tommy to wait a year or two so he know what he is doing. Just before the baptism Mom takes Tommy out of the Baptism waiting room. The pastor is embarrassed, Dad is upset...
And now more marriage counseling... but they argue which pastor should do it

 

This reads more of a submission issue than a different faith issue. These are two different churches with believers in both. Why mom won't take communion each week is beyond me - Jesus never said only take it once a month on the first Sunday. The issue of the baptism was not for the mom to decide. If the son understood what the baptism was about, and the pastor was sure that this was a real statement of his faith, the mother had no right to pull the son. This mother is showing very clearly rebellion to her husband and that is a sin. She needs to repent.

ETA - I forgot the OP! LOL!!

In our church, we will marry 2 believers or 2 unbelievers (if necessary - but it's rare). We feel very strongly that marrying a couple that will be unequally yoked is dangerous and it should not happen. You did the right thing - I know our pastor does the exact same thing as you have. Yeah, sure, they can go to another pastor and be married but you were not involved in it and that's what's important. They can't come back to you years later and say "Why did you marry us? You know our marriage went against Scripture yet you did it anyway!"

 

Many years ago when I went to Camp Bayouca, Craig Golden, the camp director (and now state rep for the Empire State Fellowship - GARBC) gave some excellent advice. You and your potential need to sit down and go over ever doctrine that is important to you.
If you believe bull-dogmatically that
a. taking communion every week is too much,
b. baptism should not be done at too early an age,
c. KJO is the only inspired version,
d. closed communion is demanded by God,
e. TV is of the Devil,
f. creation was only 7 literal days,
g. you demand the death penalty for murders,
h. you are pre-trib.
and you will not compromise one iota, I would suggest that your wife better agree with you on these doctrines. Even if you are both Baptist, you would have a hard time worshiping together - which is important.

Now in my case, my wife does not believe in the death penalty - only God has the right to take a life. Though I am for the death penalty, I do respect my wifes view, as the New Testament does not REQUIRE the death penalty - neither does it prohibit it.

I do not believe the NT teaches tithing ie required 10%. I believe that we are to give cheerfully as the Lord has prospered us. I do think that 10% is a good threshold - its just that it is not commanded. Now my wife stands firm on tithing - but I don't see that as a problem.

Dr. L Duane Brown once liken Bible doctrine to a dart board. The bullseye is the most important (non-negotiable) doctrine ie virgin birth of Christ, shed his blood for our sins, ect
The next ring are very important, the third ring is important, the fourth ring...
So the bottom line is where prioritize the importance of your doctrine.

 

A2J You gave the "readers digest" version of what I said:thumbs: