Up until a year ago my wife and I were members of a traditional Baptist church. Some things began to creep into the church that I was not happy about, such as a 40 days of purpose journey, and more importantly the introduction of an alternative contemporary worship service. The church suffered a split last October and half the congregation, including the pastor, planted a new church. For over a year now I have suffered through one praise band service after another. I am apalled at the casual approach many in our congregation take into a worship service, including dressing as if they were going to the beach instead of to church.Instead of feeling joyful at having worshipped my Lord and Saviour every Sunday, I leave the service irritated and critical. There are many women in the church that feel that it is o.k. for women to fill pastoral and elder/deacon positions in the church, regardless of what the Bible has to say about it. My wife and I have talked many times about this and even though she does not like the music, she is committed to staying because of family pressure-her family has always worshipped together and that is more important to her than some things she might not like about the church. I do not want to raise my children in this type of church, I want them to learn the great hymns of the faith and have a reverent attitude towards worship, which I do not feel they can get at this church. Part of me feels that I am compromising my convictions by staying and the other part of me feels that I should keep the family together on Sunday mornings. I have been praying about this matter constantly and would appreciate any advice or counsel any of you could give in this matter.