My Spouse (or prospective spouse).

Discussion in '2003 Archive' started by Major B, Jun 18, 2003.

  1. Major B

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    In another thread, we got off on marriage, and the discussion was going so well, I thought we'd officially talk about it.

    Rules:

    1. Humor is appreciated and encouraged
    2. If you make us cry, that is OK too.
    3. You may not order hits, terminations, or any such thing on your spouse in this forum.
    4. No KJVO-MV stuff
    5. You may write about your spouse, your prospective spouse, what you would like to see in a spouse, your imaginary spouse (for those off their meds) your former spouse, or your spouses (if you are a polygamist).

    [Notice: Some of the phrases above were intended to be humorous. If you don't have a sense of humor, please ignore them. If you can't tell the difference, we will pray for you. You may choose to laugh or not to laugh, but please do not take the humorous phrases seriously.]

    Let's hit it!
     
  2. Major B

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    I'll start the ball rolling with a few comments about my wife, adapted from that former thread.

    My wife of 32 years is Mrs. Major B, my high school sweetheart, hot-blooded lover, silver fox, conscience, the chief critic of my preaching, mother to our three kids, deocorator extraordinaire, cook to die for, the one who must dress me if I am to look nice, my right-wing anti-feminist Queen, the one who kept the home fires burning and the kids in line while I was out defending Western Civilization against the lean hungry barbarians from the east.

    She would not consider stepping down to mere equality with men. Her identity is not in me, nor is mine in her. OUR first level of identity is in Christ, and then in US--one flesh all that, God's idea, not mans. She understands her exalted position as the crown of God's creation, the mother of all living, the one for whom the husband (that's me) must die if need be. She likes me opening doors for her and pulling out her chair, she is comforted by the thought that this neanderthal viking she married can defend her, protect her, and love her without ever coming close to really understanding her. She knows why her "certificate of appreciation" from the president is an inch higher on the wall than my certificate of retirement from the military.

    By the way, being the modest creature that she is, she did not realize that her frame was an inch higher on my office wall until I mentioned it in the former post!
     
  3. mozier

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    My wife is a delightful Asian beauty from the Philippine Islands! She is gentle, kind, generous, supremely intelligent, the greatest cook in the world. She's a true Proverbs 31 woman! [​IMG]

    The only thing that makes me sad about her is that she is still Roman Catholic [​IMG]


    mozier
     
  4. Major B

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    My charismatic friend Terry, who is Swedish, married Edith, a filapina whose dad is an Assembly of God preacher in the PI. He refers to their three grown kids as "Swedapinos." ;)
     
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    [ June 21, 2003, 10:58 PM: Message edited by: Sherrie ]
     
  6. dianetavegia

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    My wonderful husband of 32 years is my best friend, compatriot, lover, protector, provider and more. He makes me laugh and shows he loves me in so many ways.

    Even tho I'm 52, Jim makes me feel very pretty and desirable. Just this past week, we were at Joe's Crab Shack. Nick (8) wanted to play longer on their playground so Jim took our leftovers to the car. As he walked out... a young woman approached, showing a vast amount of her chest (even tho wearing a dress). I couldn't help but notice how quickly Jim's eyes went to the ground and how he walked completely around her. Now THAT was neat and I let him know I noticed!

    Jim is all man but can cry at sad movies, kisses my boo-boos and never, ever has made me feel like I'm a second class citizen. He praises me and respects me, asks my opinion and yet is head of our home.

    Jim has many health problems but never misses work. He is compassionate and caring, tender and kind....

    I just praise the Lord for this wonderful husband and father for our children and grandchildren. I cannot imagine life without Jim. I have been blessed!

    Diane Tavegia
     
  7. Gina B

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    Very interesting thread! [​IMG]
    This would be my ex-spouse, but perhaps one day my legal one again.
    A delightful Asian beauty from..
    Oh wait, that was Mozier's post!
    Ok, a handsome Asian dude from Guangzhou, China.
    Good traits: Knows what he wants and is willing to work for it no matter how hard or how long. VERY determined and does not give up. Ever. Which is half of why we might be remarried one day, but don't tell him that yet. ;)
    Now a word about marriage outside of your own culture/race.
    It's very interesting, but also very very stressful and can put more strain on a marriage than one would ever imagine.
    I'd recommend that anyone considering this should

    MOST IMPORTANT: Find a church that will accept you.
    1. Have a longer than normal courtship so you don't have as many suprised to deal with later.
    2. Don't live in a small town. Or in Ohio. LOL
    3. Know what you're getting into. Talk to other people in these types of marriages and don't just listen to their advice, take it.
    4. Learn to not react in anger to the ignorant comments you may receive, and be prepared to deal with the pain of prejudice toward your children and have a plan for dealing with it because it's so easy to react in a manner that could get you in trouble when people say stupid things to or about your kids!

    It's so easy to say that you don't care what others think, but if you have to deal with it on a regular basis it's really not that simple.
    Some of this might sound weird to those who live in bigger cities, but hey, I live in a small town and people can be more than just verbally abusive about these things. We have places we've been warned not to enter, towns we avoid because we know better, churches who will only accept me as a "sinner" in need of repentance. :(
    Gina
     
  8. Dr. Bob

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    I am amazed at the number of people at about the same stage of life as myself. My bride and I have been married 33 years TOMORROW (June 19) and I love her more now than I did then.

    We were just chitlins when we married (we waiting until she graduated with a BA and I was only a semester short of finishing seminary) and didn't have two nickels to rub together. I came home from the slaughterhouse about 3 am and my bride was waiting.

    Man, good memories. Tomorrow we will go to Red Lobster (we had shrimp on our wedding night and it is a tradition never missed) then walk on past the little old church where we were married.

    She has been a loving and forgiving wife, an excellent mother and now (7 times over) grandmother. She has ministered in every church, taught 2-3 grade, taught college, homeschooled our kids, then finished her doctorate and this fall finishes 10 years in her clinic.

    Best thing about her? Her impeccable taste in men!

    And putting up with my lame humor since we met in 1966!
     
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    Kristine, my bride of just 3 1/2 weeks is a wonderful, kind, caring, funny, serious, loving, lovely, godly woman whom I love with all of my heart. I am so glad that the Lord brought her into my life!!

    God Bless!!!

    Adam [​IMG]
     
  10. Major B

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    3 1/2 weeks--LOVE IT! More power to you!
     
  11. Scott M

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    My wife and I have been married for 10 years 9 months now. She is a wonderful, loving, compassionate, caring woman. Who has no problem letting me know when I messed up ;) . She has been a great mother to our 2 daughters. The best wife a man could have.

    We were married at the ages of 20(me) and 17. We started out rough and didn't come to know the Lord until about 6 years ago. I often wondered before why we were together. It seemed all we did was fight. Once we surrendered our lives to God, it all makes sence now.

    She loves me for what I am, not what I should be. She puts up with all my hobbies, and faults. More hobbies than faults I might add [​IMG] . All in all, I couldn't ask for better.
     
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    My husband and I would have been married for 28 years on June 1st, but he passed away in January. Let me tell you about him, though...

    One of the comments that I hear over and over about him is that he could do anything. And it's true. Carpentry, plumbing, electrical wiring, drywall and drywall taping, roofing, sheet metal work, welding, woodworking, fixing big engines, fixing small engines, fixing appliances, gardening, landscaping--he could do all of them with the sort of competency usually reserved for pros. He hated to have to hire anyone to do any of these sorts of jobs, not because he was cheap, but because when they were finished, he always felt that he would have done a better job himself.

    He could also carry on intelligent conversations on many subjects. Philosophy, religion, theology, politics, economics and history were particular interests of his; but to be truthful, he had a keen interest in just about anything. He loved to play board games, but only if they were games of skill, and he played every game to win. His specialty was playing all his Scrabble tiles at once to get the 50 bonus points, and sometimes he would do that 4 or 5 times in a game.

    He had suffered almost any kind of abuse a child can suffer, but he seemed to carry no real scars from it, just a deep compassion for those who were suffering, a sharp sense of justice, and negotiating skills that allowed him to get what was right from just about anyone without confrontation.

    But most of all, he was a man of character. If he said he would do something, he did it. If someone needed help, he was always willing. He loved his home and his family. As my oldest daughter said on the night he passed away, "We could not have asked for a better father." And I could not have asked for a better husband. I always knew that I was deeply loved, and that he believed that I was God's answer to a prayer he prayed shortly after he came back from Viet Nam--a prayer for God to send him "someone". He would have done just about anything within his power for me, but in the end he had to put his trust in his heavenly Father to take care of us in his absence.
     
  13. Pete

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    Actually I only spend this many hours on the web because of endless search for a preacher wacko enough to marry my prospective spouse and self...

    The only problem is I do not know exactly who my prospective spouse is, my car or my Stratocaster... :D

    Pete
     
  14. Gina B

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    Oh Pete, that was funny! I thought you meant you wanted to marry a preacher and couldn't find one sane enough to marry you! I was thinking "I thought this poster was a guy..." then I saw your sig and re-read it a few times and realized what you meant. [​IMG]
    Gina
     
  15. Pete

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    Gina, great, you know what I mean...welllll...EXPLAIN IT TO ME WILLYA!!?? :confused: :confused: :eek: :D :D [​IMG] [​IMG]

    Pete ;)
     
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    russell55,
    I am getting off the board for the day and I can't say how much what you posted touched my soul. You are a rich person. I heard it said once that even in Christ we have our loved ones more even after they go through the door of death than we did before. You are living proof of this. Your husband was the type of man I would like to have as a best friend or as a grandfather for my children. Your husband was the type of man that I am praying for for my daughter. Your husband was the type of man that only Christ can give to us. You have given him to us also in a wonderful way. Thank you very much. God bless you today and may He be to you what your husband was to you because He is the only one who could fill those shoes.

    Thanks -------Bart
     

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