Hello. This is a long read, but I need your help. I need some advice on a situation that happened last thursday. Here's the background: 1) my wife is very VERY allergic to live flowers. They cause her throat to close. 2) two or three years ago, we asked that people please NOT bring live flowers into the church because of her allergies. 3) the people complied (which was a surprise). 4) if anyone negligently put flowers in the church, the pastor would discuss the situation with them and then he'd kindly remove them for us. 5) this has never caused any problems that I know of. 6) the woman in charge of the decorating also understood this and has complied with our requests. Here's the problem: 7) the woman in charge of decorating decided to put live flowers in the church on Maundy Thursday, just before we celebrated communion. 8) my wife had an allergic reaction, but thankfully with the use of some meds we stoppped it. She still broke out in hives all over, had breathing trouble. The meds kept her up all nite. 9) my wife called the woman while I was sitting there and really got very loud with her. No name-calling. No cursing. She just let her know in very uncertain terms that she did NOT appreciate her purposefully setting flowers in there. 10) decorating lady wanted to argue about it and was very proud to tell my wife that she made the decision herself to put flowers in the church. 11) my wife explained to her that live flowers expell pollen, the A/C picks it up and spreads it all over the sanctuary....the point being that "sitting in the back pew" won't save her. 12) my wife hung up on her. 13) decorating lady left 2 voicemails. one saying that she didn't think my wife was very Christian-like in the way she spoke to her. The other that the flowers were removed and that she'd hate to see my wife miss church on Easter. 14) the Pastor spoke to her. According to the Pastor,while she says she is sorry, she thinks that she did nothing wrong. The reason she put them there was so that if the Pastor had removed them, she and her husband would leave the church and go someplace else. She wanted to cause an incident where the Pastor had to choose between "the young people" (my wife and I) or "the old people". 15) So if what the Pastor says is true, then this lady has a grudge against the Pastor, wants to fabricate some type of "blow up" incident which allows her and her husband to leave...and she doesn't care if she hurts my wife in the process. 16) Her husband, like myself, is a deacon. 17) The more and more I think about this thing, her lack of acknowledging any wrong-doing, her grudge against the Pastor (and to some extent, my growing grudge against her), more fed up and angry I get. I mean, who is SHE to endanger my wife because of some kind of power trip/grudge? What do I do? If she'll do this, there's no telling what else she'll do. Help!