I do not try nor intend to be rude to people, but sometimes people interpret what I say to be so, even when it was never intended this way. I reside in a hyper liberal area. There are only 3 Fundamentalist churches within a hour drive of me, and all 3 are KJV only. So for the time being I am attendign Calvary Chapel. They are not exactly where I want to be, but they are one of th only churches of all the churches here that preaches the bible verse by verse. The Emergent Church and hyperliberalism, along with homosexual pastors are very common where I am at. Those of you in the Bible Belt or in some rural area will have a hard time understanding what I am saying. However those of you living in New York City, San Francisco, or some other hyper liberal area will be right at home. I noticed that one of the liberal churches that I used to attend back in 1999 (before I was a fundamentalist) is starting a softball team. I have checked out many churches in this area, and have found none that have softball, or the ones that do, are too far for me to drive. This church has women pastors, and holds other liberal views. However I do believe that the staff there is saved ands that the essential chruistian doctriens are beign taught. I called and spoke with a female ministry director (sounded like a individual that preaches and holds spiritual leadership over men). We chatted, and I tried to be kind and all in my conversation. But she got the feeling that I only wanted to go to the church to fellowship, and not to be under their authority. I tried to dodge these concerns of here, and only focus on softball issues and how I could play, but she got very direct with me. I tried again not to address her concerns and in doing so I tried to speak with gentleness and respect (1 Pet 3:15, NIV). But she pressed on me again, and then I finally told her that I did not want to go to this church and be under their authority, nor did I want any part of the churches doctrine. However I mentioned that I would love to fellowship with the singles group, and would love to play softball. I mentioned that I was fundamentalist, and I did not call to start a war. I called to find out how to join the singles group so I could play softball, and thats it. How would you have handled this, and how could I have handled it better? Perhaps I handled it well. I did not try to start any fights, but since she continually pressed as to why I only wanted to play softball and felowship, and not join the church, nor be under their teachings, I had to speak.