Front page picture and prominent article in the Life section of my local Sunday paper discusses an interesting topic that may bring up some debate. (I’ve taken the liberty of changing the names.) One of the attendees of our youth group in past years was a young man with Down syndrome. He is a nice, popular, energetic young man of limited intelligence, who is involved in Special Olympics. While there, he met a young woman, described in the article as mildly retarded, legally blind and prone to seizures. Both have work restrictions due to their health problems. They fell in love. Recently he proposed to her. She said yes! Quotes from the paper: “Bucky said he’s ready to live on his own, but his mother told him he still needs more time. ‘Bucky you still have skill to learn like shaving. Right now dad shaves you.’ “If you can’t take care of yourselves properly, you can’t do it on your own.” “We love our kids and we want it to work. In order for them to have a full life, we have to make sure they are ready.” “The mothers said the lovebirds are about two years away from being ready to leave the nest.” Here's the problem: The families are in the process of determining whether it would be more financially advantageous for the young man to live together or to marry because they could lose some Social Security benefits if they marry. “Either way, the families plan to hold a ceremony for Bucky and Carol to mark the start of their lives together.” What do you think about having a ceremony to marry the couple, but not an official civil ceremony therefore leaving them single in the eyes of the law? As a pastor, would you, could you, “marry” them in this manner?