A man is a pastor. His children are grown now. His children make remarks like, "I never knew why my Dad didn't love me." His children are afraid of him. The spouses of the children are afraid of him. His wife is afraid to disagree with him. His children all went through periods in their life of alcoholism, sexual promiscuity, or even run-ins-with-law, but when they moved away from him, they all settled down into Christian living. Am I being judgemental to have serious doubts about the man's ability to lead a church?