how do you pastors deal with these types of people: 1. people who say negative things about you at your back? 2. proud attendees/members who show that they are better than you, if there is one? 3. is the temptation really that big to give special treatment to members who give the largest offerings, especially if they are the "i-want-special-treatment" type? on the other hand, how do you deal with: 4. humble members who attend church and obeys with all humility? 5. members that are more matured than you?