Please! Help me help my mum!

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  1. jenni

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    :tonofbricks: Hi im jenni and i have a problem in my house. But first let me trll you; My mum is a very good mum she works and she keeps a roof for me and my sister. But the problem is my mum isn't very nice sometimes. Here's her day every week day.
    Work gets home at 4pm
    walks in sits at the computer and plays a farm game all day (Not kidding) and gets up and eats sometimes that's it! I want a mum not a couch potato.:sleeping_2:

    She must be very sad because she wont really talk to us and when she dose she always yelling.
    EX: I was making a list for the store. And she was playing her game and i had asked her a question about what soup she needed and she said " Shut the F* up and go to your room and get away from me!" I love my mum and im not Tattling on her it just what u need to know to give me some advice.
    I also need to know how to show her what i need from her with out offending her. I would also like to tell her to stop using my love for God as a weapon against me so that i can show her what His love really means. I just want Her to know but i don't want to hurt her because i can tell she is already hurting.
    Any ideas on how to help me help her.
    Gods Servant: Jenni :godisgood:
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  2. Mexdeaf

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    Your mom sounds like she may be depressed. You need to talk with your pastor or his wife about this. Your mom needs a LOT of prayer and patience.

    I shall be praying for you all. Please keep us posted.
     
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    How old are you and your sister Jenni?
     
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    i am 17 she is 14
     
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    Where's Dad?

    Do you post often on other sites? You seem to be familiar with it.
     
  6. jenni

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    Its sad to say but my dad is almost unactiven in our lives and my parents were never married. He lives less than a mile from here but he is only a farther when conveint. so i have had to look up to a very close friends farther the last 12 or so years. (he is a strong christian man)
    I have never posten on sites but it wasnt hard to fugure out
     
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    Is Mum drinking or doing drugs or both?
     
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    No neather.
     
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    Have you talked to your friend's father any about this?

    Do you have a pastor to go to?
     
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    I have and even the friends mother.
    My pastor is part of a very larg church and i dont have a personal relationship with him or his wife.
     
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    Is Mum home from work yet?
     
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    Jenni, you should take this issue to your school counselor and to your pastor.
     
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    I agree. This is not the proper forum at all for this - we can't know the whole story from this or even know how true this is. We've had other posters like this that turned out to be trolls.
     
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    No she has all week off. and i don't go to a christian school. I need the help form christian Brothers and sisters.
     
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    No it is all true and i am asking for advice on how to help me to help tell my mum what i need form her and how to help her with out hurting her. and im not what ever it is you called it. sorry if you lost your trust because of those other posters. I am just asking for some support, and ideas form Christians.
     
  16. Marcia

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    There is really nothing you can do to help your mother - she needs more help than you can give her. The best you can do is pray and ask for the Lord's strength to live with her and show her the love of Christ. But I also think you need guidance from an adult and this is not the right forum. You need professional guidance and this is just a discussion board for issues, not a help/counseling site. You might even get bad advice here.
     
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    that is what this is. an issue. thank you for you opinion. and i understand i can get some bad advice, but there can also be good advice here too. and i was looking to see if anyone had went through this too had something they could tell me. Or even someone that had any ideas on how to help me help my mum by telling me an easy and non hurtful way to confront her. im not asking for professional help im just asking for help from Christan people. i hope u under stand where im coming from as well.
     
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    I don't think there is much you can say to your mother without her getting upset. From what you described, I am guessing she would be quite defensive. Perhaps you can try asking her if she realizes that you and your sister would like to spend more time with her. I also think you should realize that you are not responsible for making her better. It's very hard to help someone who does not want to be helped an does not even recognize there is a problem.
     
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    I felt like this needed to be repeated. Jenni, it may well be that you are telling a true story. However, members of this board are so far removed from your situation we cannot help.

    If you cannot go to your pastor, his wife or another trusted member of your church, then you will need to go to your school counselor/teacher. This is true whether you are in a Christian school or a secular school.

    This forum is for general Baptist Discussions. I recommend you seek professional advice from your school and church; I am closing this thread with this post.

    bro. Dallas Eaton
     
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