I pastor a church of about 400 people. We have a potential situation brewing and I need a multitude of counselors. There is a married lady who is involved with another married man. Both families are active members in our church. And both parties have been confronted by their spouses in the past (this has been alleged for 2 years). Recently the husband found his wife and the other married man alone in a vehicle in a secluded area. Their excuse was that they were just talking. There is no doubt in my mind there is an emotional affair going on...the evidence supports that. I am 99% sure that there has been a sexual affair as well, but there is no evidence to support that suspicion. The husband has come to me and I am counseling him and trying to work with him. My question is how do we handle this matter in relation to Matthew 18? This has become a public matter and is really a dark cloud that looms over our church. I feel that after two years we need to confront this issue, especially after she was found with the other man. But how do I do it Scripturally and tactifully? Any ideas??? Has anyone been in a similar situaiton as a pastor.