prenuptial agreement

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  1. freeatlast

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    Do you believe that God supports (intended) prenuptial agreements in marriage based on scripture? Why?
     
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    We encourage couples planning on getting married not to do a prenup. It creates too many problems for a marriage:

    1. Beginning in distrust
    2. A planned defensive strategy against your spouse
    3. Represents an exit strategy for your marriage

    Just our opinion, but they are a bad idea.
     
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    Aren't the marriage vows a verbal and often written prenuptial agreement?
     
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    What marriage vows are you referring to? I know of none in scripture. Please give scripture reference.
     
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    Not only that but I find it difficult to understand how the two can be one and have a wedge between them from the start.
     
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    You said it all. Nothing to add, you have covered the bases.
     
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    Prenuptial Agreements are much less common here than they seem to be in America. But as I understand it, such agreements are about how assets should be divided in the case of divorce. I cannot see from Scripture that God intends engaged couples to enter marriage having already made preparations for divorce!
     
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    Yes I agree, but they also deal with how to divide the assets if one dies rather then giving everything to the spouse.
     
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    I'm no lawyer, but couldn't that be done by making a will?
     
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    I didn't say the marriage vows were in the Scriptures.

    Perhaps you misread.

    All I stated were the typical marriage vows are a type of verbal and often written prenuptial agreement.

    I suppose that is why some consider when the vows are broken the contract becomes void.
     
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    Not before you are married and if you wait until after they are married it is too late in many states because of pre-existing laws.
     
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    No marriage vows are not considered prenuptial agreement. You clearly do not know what a prenup is.
    Here is a link https://www.rocketlawyer.com/secure/interview/questions.aspx?document=8526240#q1 to a nine page prenup sample.
     
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    In general for younger people getting married, I would say it is a very bad idea.

    However, for older people who have already been married, had children, and been divorced or widowed...a prenup that declares whose children will get what assets makes it much easier when one of them passess away. For example, my wife's grandmother passed away in her 80's. The grandfather remarried, then died 3 years later. They had pre-decided, that if he died, his children and grandchildren would inherit the farmland to sell, and some other financial assets he had built up over time. the new wife's children would not get half... They also decided that the wife WOULD get to keep the house, so she would not be without a place to live when he died. This prevented any kind of inheritance battle between the 2 families.
     
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    For the world it makes no difference, but for those who claim to follow Christ it does. A marriage is to make the two one. Prenups keep that from happening. If you cannot trust the person you are about to marry then don't marry them. What is hers is his and what is his is hers. Prenups is just another variation of the world in the church.
     
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    The post originally was meant in jest.

    But because you drag more into it, I will clarify.

    If one does consider marriage a contract, then the taking of vows (oaths) in front of witnesses constitute an agreement between two parties.

    Because it happens BEFORE the pronouncement and mating - then it can be considered in any court of law a "prenuptial agreement."


    I do not consider the vows of marriage a "contract" for generally speaking the terms are agreed upon not between the bride and groom, but a one way street toward the bride and the groom. The typical words begin with "Do you take this ...... to be your ...... to have and to hold..... 'till death do you part?" There is no if / then statement in the vows. Therefore any breaking of the vows do not dissolve the responsibility of the persons who make the vows.
     
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    No marriage vows are not considered prenuptial agreement. You clearly do not know what a prenup is.
    Here is a link https://www.rocketlawyer.com/secure/...ent=8526240#q1 to a nine page prenup sample.
     
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    This is the WORLD'S definition! And must thereby be rejected by any christian.
     
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    What if you trust your spouse, but not trust their kids who may try to take things from your children...or maybe you don't trust your own kids, and believe they will try to take inheritance money from your new spouses children?
     
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    If you have a biblical definition please post the text otherwise Here is a link https://www.rocketlawyer.com/secure/...ent=8526240#q1 to a nine page prenup sample.
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    You make a will after you are married. :BangHead:
     

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