I have been thinking about something for a long time now and wanted some in put. Lets say that a good way to describe love is loveing some one else and what they need more then what I want; putting their best interests first. So if a husband or a wife has adultry then they did not really love them. For that time they did not seek the best for that other person at all. My ? is how can you love someone and do this? I know that maybe they did love them or will love them, but at the time of the cheating did they? I am thiking no. I'm I right? Wrong?