I know someone in this situation, who isn't sure what to do. I thought I'd ask you guys for some input before giving advice. Say you believe God wants you in your current church, and you and your wife both felt that God led you there a few years ago. Your wife knows you are best while pastoring, but she absolutely hates the current situation. She doesn't fit in at church, hates the town, hates the current living arrangements, feels completely unaccepted in the whole area and wants out. She loves God but is tired of being hurt and lonely and would rather be in another church. It's gotten to the point that she rarely leaves the house, and is fighting severe depression. Would you want to know her true feelings? Would it discourage you? Would you make a change based on her wellbeing, or would it cause friction in your marriage. Would it make a difference if the children (if any) were also unhappy?