I'm a relatively new pastor of a smalltown SBC church. I thought I was familiar with how people become members (baptism, statement, letter), but I'm realizing the lines aren't quite as defined as I'd like them to be. Rarely do situations neatly fall into the boxes that I imagined. Take these three cases. 1) Someone came forward to join by baptism. But in counseling with her after the service, I find out that she had already been baptized (because she had "accepted Christ" years earlier, but she was now ready to really commit to Him. I explain that we need only get baptized once. So she joined by statement of faith (she was not a member of a church anywhere...). She has rarely attended since then, even though we regularly check on her and seek to include her. 2) Someone came forward to join by transfer of letter. I find out that she's a member of the ABC church in town. I didn't realize that SBC and ABC churches exchanged letters before that day, but apparently they do, because without even requesting the letter, the ABC church sent us one for her. Is this normal? 3) Someone came forward to join by statement of faith. I find out she's a member of an IBC in a nearby town. She didn't want to transfer her letter (still not completely clear on why...has something to do with her divorce and the previous church siding with her ex-husband who abandoned her), so I asked her if I could at least call her previous pastor and ask if she was in good standing. She was okay with that, so I called him, left a message, but haven't heard back yet (this was just this past week). How would you handle each of these cases?