I've noticed something that makes me wonder about all the possible reasons and which one is most likely to be the main cause of what I'm seeing. What am I seeing? I'm seeing that in elementary schools, there are tons of Christian families. Fast forward to high school and the number of Christian families appears to take a steep plunge. I wonder how much of this has to do with parents letting little things sneak into their lives for the sake of trying to keep peace in the home as their children get older. Maybe they let some of the modesty rules slip a bit because the kid really wants to fit in with friends and wear the latest fashions, and fashions of late aren't exactly modest. Maybe because they get involved in sports at school too, where the outfits often may fail the standards test the parents previously held onto. Little by little, what used to be unacceptable creeps into the home. Teens are great at asking questions, pushing boundaries, and even blaming parents for their own sin because "the rules are too strict and if you'd loosen up, I'd not be so tempted to think about doing wrong so much." By the time the family realizes how far it has gone, it is usually because they started feeling some pressure from other people in their church congregation or suddenly, those lessons from the pulpit start causing a bit of pain because the parents start feeling convicted, but human nature says to protect your family and children, so they try to find ways around stuff instead and end up with hurt feelings and thinking their church must be the problem, so they leave. Then they find the same things happen elsewhere, so they find a church with standards that aren't quite right, but then they know it's a sham and start questioning their faith. Eventually, they give up on faith because "all those hypocrites, I'll learn on my own." Then they don't. We're told not to forsake assembling with other Christians, and I personally think that's because most of us are incapable of staying strong on our own. We need the love and support of other believers, just as we need love and support from people in other areas of our lives. A doctor wouldn't consider cutting themselves off from associating with other doctors and continuing education or he/she would end up no longer being a doctor. What do others think? I hear a lot about there not being a lot of young parents in church. Perhaps passion is a better gauge though. I find that those in their later 30's through 50's to have much less passion for Christ than the younger couples do. There's a pretty low number of people over 60, which I find extremely distressing, as they are the ones with the most knowledge and life experience to share with others and help them grow. Could being a parent make it less likely for a person to remain in the church when that child grows older?