Okay I got home and was reading the posts in the divorce thread telling me and the guy asking for the advice to pray for reconciliation. I have to ask, why? The trust and the fidelity of the marriage have been broken not to mention that my husband has another woman or women for that matter and well thats a matter in itself that personally grosses me out. I am not a cheater, I remained faithful to my husband our entire marriage. For me there is no marriage because there is no trust, no foundation, no fidelity, no loyalty, no honor. [Discussion of human sexuality is not allowed in an open public forum.] I just want to know how many would welcome a spouse back with open arms and why would you welcome them back when you cannot trust them ever again I know in my case I cant trust my husband ever again, he wants to put all the bad behind us and for me to be his friend but I cant do that anymore either. I have been down that road, and its a road where you end up being hurt and frustrated. So I have closed all doors and unless it regards our son thats the only thing he can talk to me about. The man cheated I have forgiven him but I closed the door to anything further and I will absolutely have nothing to do with the woman he is seeing she is not even allowed to be in the vehicle when he comes to get our son. She is not to be alone with our son as well.