Separation of men and women?

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  1. dianetavegia

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    I post on another (mostly) Baptist Board for women where most of the ladies are married to IFB pastor's or missionaries. I mentioned posting on this board when someone had a question that fit one of webmaster's forums. I got some odd replies and would like your opinions.

    The ladies suggested that it is improper for men and women to post openly together and discuss things as we do. One lady even mentioned that she had looked here and felt the some of the exchanges might be considered flirting.

    I cannot find any scripture that would support men and women not discussing scripture or ideas in an open discussion. (Of course I do feel women are not to teach men in church but this is not a church.)

    I believe it was Karen who recently asked a question that sort of touched on this but we didn't get many replies.

    Any thoughts?
    Diane
     
  2. Charlesga

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    Diane,

    You can probably guess how I view this subject...I think it is very appropriate for men and women to discuss scriptures openly together. In fact, I think it is necessary. Sometimes, women have insights that are quite important to hear. In my life, I've learned alot of valuable insights by discussing scripture with both men and women.

    I find nothing in the Bible that would prevent us from posting or talking together.

    Also, I've don't believe I've ever read anything here that indicates flirting.

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    That is interesting and even odd. I don't think I have ever seen anything like flirting here. More Brother/Sister stuff I think. I do think there are SOME issues that are better segrigated and we have private forums for that, but I think of this as more a huge potluck (potfaith) dinner without the heartburn. [​IMG]
     
  4. dianetavegia

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    I was shocked, too, Mark. I do take into consideration that these ladies are much more conservative than me... and I consider myself to be VERY conservative. I do, however, wear make-up and slacks!

    Do you believe it is improper for a man and woman to have a Biblical discussion? That was my main question. I've not noticed flirting either.

    Diane
     
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    I don't see any problem at all. Women can bring up viewpoints that men hadn't thought about, and vice versa.
    Sometimes we men need a woman's point of view to help us try to understand women better (although women remain the sweet mysteries of life ;) ).
    To separate the men and women completely would do a great disservice to both.
     
  6. dianetavegia

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    Charles, I just saw your reply. I've searched scripture and I cannot find anything to suggest a woman and man cannot discuss scripture outside of church.

    Karen asked the question saying that men here learn from women (Karen, jump in and correct my wording if I'm not quoting you well enough) and since I believe women are not to teach men, did I feel it was wrong if a man 'learned' from me on a thread. I've thought about that since then and just cannot find anything that would leave me to believe it is wrong for us to openly discuss scripture.

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    I don't see any problem with men and women discussing scripture together.
    Although I have seen times I felt there was flirting going on. Some of the topics further south of here where there is less scripture discussion.
     
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    I do believe that scripture telling us that is about behavior in church.
     
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    We all learn from each other. Everyone here has a different take on things, and we learn from discussing our viewpoints. I would just as soon learn things from a biblical discussion with a woman as I would with a man. Makes no difference. The woman is not usurping anyone's authority here.
     
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    I just noticed in my reply to Charlesga that I said I don't see anything wrong with men and women discussing scripture outside the church. I should clarify that I also openly participate in the discussion in our couples Sunday School class. I would never teach the class tho...

    Katie, I don't usually read the fluff and stuff threads so I hadn't seen that. I like to pick on Blackbird but he's about the same age as my oldest son so it's certainly not flirting... just picking on him and threatening to come hear him preach. I actually prefer threads that have more men replying because the men seem to be less emotional!

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    I agree with what everyone else has said. [​IMG]

    This isn't church, and whether or not learning is going on is up for discussion. :D

    In all seriousness, that's why I joined this board; to learn. It seemed like the more I read and studied the Bible, the more questions I had, and my church is so huge and everyone there is so busy, that it's not practical to bug someone about something I'm curious about.

    I also find that most women, (in my church anyway) really don't know much, or care to know much about things like Cal/Arm, end times, bible versions, or anything having to do with theology. Most times that I would ask a question to another woman (even a pastors wife) I would either get a blank stare or a very basic answer. My church frowns on anyone organizing any bible study groups, so that idea was out too. :(

    I appreciate the fact that I can come here and get the viewpoints of women and men. I would be sad if that ended.

    I have never been flirted with here either. I have, however, recently been suspected of being a clingon! :eek: ;) [​IMG]
     
  12. Istherenotacause

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    Quote from Diane:

    I actually prefer threads that have more men replying because the men seem to be less emotional!

    Does this mean wizofoz is a woman? :eek: If I'd known perhaps I wouldn't have been so rough! [​IMG]

    (Just kidding ,wiz, so "lighten up!") [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
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    Quote from Romulan1/16

    I have never been flirted with here either. I have, however, recently been suspected of being a clingon!

    I just checked with Mr. Spock, he says all indications show the presence of the Romulans instead of Klingons, as first suspected. I gave the order to Mr. Sulu to open all frequencies for communications. Ahuru says she's picking up some unusual transmissions on an unknown frequency. Will be contacting Star Command to advise our next move. [​IMG]

    Oh! No! The "expendable crewman" has just been zapped by what appears to be some interstellar laser beam and disintergrated into a gerbal looking thingy! [​IMG]

    I'm sure those "observers" will find some way of this being an example of "flirting".

    I've always had a real beef with these "fruit inspectors". If you've ever noticed, a fruit tree goes through seasons, so do Christians. We get to looking for fruit and don't even see any sign of life , but the "tree" has been going through one of the longest, coldest, darkest, winters of it's life. Better watch that fruit inspecting, "Sherlock". :rolleyes:

    In His Holy Service,

    Brother Ricky
     
  14. wizofoz

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    You callin' me emotional? Me? Emotional?
    I'm not emotional. I'm not!
    I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, I tell you!!

    I AM NOT EMOTIONAL!!!!!

    Excuse me while I breathe into this paper bag.....
     
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    Oxygen! Can we get some oxygen over here?! [​IMG] [​IMG]
     
  16. Istherenotacause

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    Bones! Remove that bag of McDonald's french fries from that man's mouth! He needs oxygen! Not french fries!

    Bones? Is that you, Bones? Captain to bridge! Captain to bridge! The Romulans have taken over Dr. McCoy's brain and they're gorging themselves on french fries down here! Mayday! Mayday! Bridge! Bridge! This is your captain speaking! Can anyone hear me? Oh give me some of those fries!

    Slap! Slap! Jim, Jim, it's me, Mccoy, Wake up!Jim! It's just a dream!
     
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    Dear Diane,
    No complaints about how you quoted me. My viewpoint is that I find nothing wrong with discussion on the BB. But I don't in church either. I tend to the view that the same Scriptural rules in these matters apply for Christians in or out of church.

    There is a certain consistency among the friends you have on the other board. Those of us who are conservative SBC often seem to take the viewpoint that the rules for church do not apply outside.
    I am not sure I hold to that view. However, my view of what applies inside the church is probably looser than yours, anyway.

    Karen
     
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    Paul wrote about how one is to act in church, what the order was to be. He meant those for church, not outside. Likewise he also wrote about our lives outside the chruch. he makes himself plian of the order for being in church, women do not teach men. He does not say that about outside. Other wise, women teachers couldn't teach boys(even if they werre their mothers), women could not be boss over a man in the work place,(assuming he is a christian). Paul wrote about gathering together in worship(church time), and that women were not to teach men. Isn't there a single man on the BB who has a woman boss, or a woman above him in his work place? My husband does, and theres nothing biblically wrong with that.
    Otherwise none of the women on here could talk unless it was on the women's forums.


    Diane, I usually don't post on the fluff topic either, every now and then if it has an interesting itle I'll read, adn maybe post something(like the potato salad topic), but usually I don't do fluff.
     
  19. Larry in Tennessee

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    Diane, I don't see a problem with men and women posting in the same forum. I've learned alot in the short time I've been on here, and I really like to read all the perspectives. I also haven't noticed any flirting on here, but there are several parts of the board I havn't been to yet.

    Now a notice for all of the Klingons and Romulins on here:

    WE ARE BORG,
    LOWER YOUR SHIELDS AND SURRENDER YOUR VESSELS, YOUR CULTURE WILL ADAPT TO SERVICE US, RESISTANCE IS FUTILE
     
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    No problems here. But I'm like Karen - it isn't that I separate what's for inside and what's for outside of church, it's that my view of what's appropriate in or out of church is likely (okay, definitely ;) ) not as strict as some here.
     

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