"Sexy" Fashions . . . What Do Men Think?

Great post - thanks FAL!

 

That's an excellent article Freeatlast! I hope all our youth will read it.

Diane

 

It's a very good article. I would add some other points, perhaps.

1. Many teens (and some other older women who should know better by then) dress that way because it is the 'fashion.' They also see anorexic or almost-so women in ads and Hollywood columns dressed 'that way,' and want to be the same. They associate sexy clothes/revealing clothes as making one like the stars, or at least more attractive. Every woman wants to be attractive!

However, yesterday in WalMart I saw a young husband escorting his mucho overweight wife around and he had to feel some kind of embarrassment -- she had rolls of fat sticking out between her wrap-around skirt and her very too tight top. People were trying not to look...

The lure of Hollywood and the ads is a lure based on deceit. And so many of our young ladies are falling for it, to their later shame and their parents' and husbands' complete embarrassment.

2. Even if a young lady DOES have a body that looks good (under anyone's standards) in 'those' clothes (or lack of them), and even if she DOES attract a husband via that method, she will not stay that way. Children and time guarantee that gravity will exert its power over parts of her body. If she used that body to get her husband, and she loses that body, he may leave. At the least, she will be caught in a cycle of never-ending striving to keep that body and the uncertainty and fear in the knowledge that she can't and will he still love her?

Even extreme makeovers will show the signs of time in years to come.

The extreme makeover which gets better with time is the one Jesus does -- inside. The funny thing is, that one causes you to think less and less about yourself as time goes by, not more and more about yourself the way physical stuff does.

 

A "must read" for all Moms, Dads, youth and adults.
This author calls it like it is, but in a graceful manner.

This article ought to be printed in every church bulletin every week for at least 6 months, and semiannually thereafter!

 

I wish young girls would read and apply this article. I'm sick, tired, and disgusted over 12 year old girls running around dressed like prostitutes.

It seems like girls think that dressing "sexy" is the only way to attract a guy. The problem is this: only women whose bodies are in peak form will attract men through this method, the rest will actually repel men (the "gross-out" factor). The most attractive girls who might get attention from dressing "sexy" don't need the extra help anyway. Attractive girls ALWAYS get attention, even in modest clothing.

From the article:
"Dressing this way will cause people to think of you as sexually loose."

This testimony is true. In my experience, I've seen girls that dress "sexy" avoided because they are perceived as being less than pure. Many men will not approach women like that because as is often said, "You don't know where she's been."

This is an excellent article that should be required reading at about age 8 (unfortunately girls dress "sexy" even at that age ).

 

When parents allow their daughters to dress sexy just who do they think they are being sexy for and what do they expect the out come of that will be? Do they actually want males(teen boys, adult men even) leering sexually at their teenage or younger daughters?

 

StefanM said: This testimony is true. In my experience, I've seen girls that dress "sexy" avoided because they are perceived as being less than pure. Many men will not approach women like that because as is often said, "You don't know where she's been."

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Our soon to be 28 year old unmarried son won't approach or date a girl who dresses 'sexy'. My husband doesn't like sleepwear for me that looks like stuff a loose woman would wear either.

Diane

 

This new "show your belly (and worse) style is appaling to me (yes, it is also appealing to my flesh). What do women think they are doing?!?!?

 

Funny that when god made clothes for Adam and Eve the devil has been trying to get us to undress ever since.

The worlds way: sleep together, then see if you compatible and get married.

God's way: find someone who is holy, and apiritually similar, i.e. compatible, then think about marriage.

 

I really wish that every Christian woman could have the mind of a man for just an hour and then walk through any city or town. Hopefully yhe would NEVER dress "sexy" again.

 

An interesting anecdote on this subject.

I was riding in my co-workers truck last week, driving down a major southeastern michigan avenue, and some group was holding a fund raising car wash.

Several girls (between junior high and high school age) were standing on the side of the road in either swimwear or the current definition of a shirt, too low, too high, and too tight, attempting to attract motorists to come in for a car wash.

My unsaved co-worker, who to be honest probably has no problem with the immodest dress made the following rather insightful comment.

"It's pretty sad that they have to teach even girls that young that 'sex sells'"

My pastor has addressed this very issue several times in the past few months. Not the traditional pseudo-fundamentalist ranting and raving about skirts an inch above the ankle, but an intelligent explanation of the biblical principles of modesty, and a rebuke to the men who are supposed to be leading their families, but allow their wives and or children to dress in a way that can only be designed to attract attention in the wrong way. He tacked on an assault on the thought lives of the men as well, there does have to be a balance on this issue, too many pastors IMO have a serious problem with their own wandering eyes and so demand amish clothing on the women so they don't have to deal with their own sin as often.

Our Pastor was not saying you have to try and hide what you are, but the basic idea is the clothing should cover you, and you shouldn't be able to bounce a quarter off it.

 

I agree. Lately I have been appalled at the dress length of some of our pre-teens and teens. I know mini skirts are back "in" but wearing them to church is ridiculous. Even some of the women are wearing dresses that are inappropriate. Last Sunday night a "40ish" lady had on a dress at least 5 inches above her knee. She has very muscular legs so it was hard not to notice. Sunday morning another women in this age group had on a denim skirt several inches above her knee that had a slit up the front. She is a larger lady and she looked like she had on her teenaged daughter's clothes. The teenaged daughter, who is as large as her mother, usually opts for something very thin and short with frills.
I've seen young women with very short skirts and very low cut necklines that were very inappropriate for church.

I believe teachers and the preacher should be addressing this problem but everyone seems to just look the other way. It's as if no one wants to say anything for fear of making someone mad. When the mothers start dressing that way, what do we expect of the teens.

 

I just finished preaching a series of messages---"Kingdom Living"----ending up on 1Timothy 2: 9-15---simply put

Dress for the Kingdom, Ladies!

Dress like you're fixin' to go see Jesus!

Brother David

 

As a man, I think the question men need to be responsible for is: What is the man doing looking? Yes, it's absolutely true that there are fashions that are more revealing that we consider appropriate, myself included. However, that does not eschew my responsibility as a Christian male to not be affected by such dress. If I look at a woman lustfully, I'm the adulterer, regardless of how little she's wearing. Perhaps if WE MEN stopped looking, then our young women would dress differently.

 

Johnv---I ain't no "KnuckleHead"---but--if you dress a "Ragady Ann" doll up in the same outfit as a Barbie doll---and then put them side by side----who you think I'm gonna notice?? And you can say what you want---there ain't a man on the BB who won't notice!! Its that he don't want to admit it!! The only ones who wouldn't be able to tell the difference between what Ragady Ann has on and what Barbie has on----are the Pharasees and Saducees!---and its that they just don't want to admit it!