Should a Christian attend an immoral wedding

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  1. Judith

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    Define "immoral."
     
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    I would not attend a gay wedding nor would I attend a wedding of a friend who left their spouse after committing adultery and marrying the other person. I would and have attended a remarriage (a marriage after a divorce) but in each case, it was not a divorce based out of sin or was a divorce before the person became a believer and now were a totally different person and on fire for God. I would have to prayerfully consider attending the wedding of a believing friend to an unbeliever. I know my husband won't perform a ceremony under those circumstances but we'd have to prayerfully decide if we would even attend such a wedding.
     
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    Just read the article.
     
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    Answer the question.
     
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    Can I start a new rabbit trail here

    Would you attend a wedding for a young couple that you sincerely believe that should not be getting married? Would Hubby preform such a wedding?
     
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    Don't Be a 9Marxist

    "Jonathan Leeman is the Editorial Director of 9Marks, and an elder at Capitol Hill Baptist Church in Washington, D. C."
     
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    If we felt strongly enough that they should not get married, hubby would not perform the wedding and we would have to pray about attending. More than likely the answer would be "no".
     
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    Agreed - that is a tough call - at least to attend.
     
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    But what an opportunity it'd give you to testify.

     
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    Your presence at any wedding is an endorsement of the marriage. If I could not endorse the marriage, I would not attend the marriage. If I did not personally believe that the two getting married would qualify under the biblical definition of marriage, I would not attend. No definitions needed.
     
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    Is it?

    It you are correct, I need to interview the bride and groom before I attend any wedding in a series of meetings before I RSVP. I also need to run a criminal background and credit check on both bride and groom, so I can be assured that they are not making a big mistake.

    What if if is simply standing with your friends at a very important moment in their lives, pledging support for the stability of the home?

    If I attend the funeral of a person who committed suicide, does that make me an advocate of suicide? I have visited the religious meetings of a few cults, more than a few abusive churches, and a couple of meetings that turned out to have charismatic excess... does that indicate my endorsement?
     
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    A compromise suggested by Russell Moore, chief ethicist of the Southern Baptist Convention:

    http://www.wsj.com/articles/southern-baptists-gay-community-break-bread-at-conference-1414691923

    "What if you get invited to a same-sex wedding ceremony?" Russell Moore, president of the SBC's Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, was asked on stage. "In that case, I would not attend the wedding. I would attend the reception," he responded. In that way, he said, a Baptist could say, "I love you and I'm here with you. I disagree with you, but I love you."
     
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    Sure - just show up for the part they have to pay for!
     
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    Why? If it's a bride and a groom it qualifies under the biblical definition of marriage.

    Did God forbid criminals and/or fiscally irresponsible people from marrying? I guessed I missed that...

    If they can biblically be married, go for it.

    Apples and oranges. God did not ordain and establish the funeral ceremony. He did, however, the covenant of marriage.

    I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt that you really can see the difference and not insult you by explaining the difference.
     
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    Exactly. When we attend a marriage we are there as witnesses of that union. At one time it was asked if any knew of a reason the couple should not be married (I don't know if they still do this). I wonder how many Christians would admit to such knowledge if it were an "unbiblical marriage".
     
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    I do not attend funerals for the individual who passed away
    I attend funerals to support the friends of relatives of the deceased.
     
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    I would certainly hope that if you are invited to a wedding that you already know a LOT about the bride and/or groom. When I've been invited, I've been a part of at least one of their lives for quite some time and have been around for the relationship so I know the answer to most of the important question.
     
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    There are lots of men and women that marry, who should not marry. I don't approve (think it is a good idea) of many of them. Does that mean I won't attend or do things to undermine the marriage? Not at all.

    Is the bond of marriage an important commitment that should not be entered into lightly? Obviously yes. Should people work to get their lives in order before they enter into marriage? They should.

    My presence at a wedding does not mean I approve or endorse the union.
     
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    You would think so, but I often don't know much - if anything - about the bride or groom.

    For instance, I am attending a wedding in the middle of October where I know the bride fairly well, but I have never met the groom since he lives in another city and they have only been dating about a year. I know nothing about him. I do know that the bride has been anxious to get married for several years, so I have more than a few concerns about the relationship.

    My presence at the wedding and good wishes for their future does not mean I'm endorsing their relationship or their marriage.
     

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