Should a Christian mother/ wife work?

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  1. dianetavegia

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    Statistics show that women are now committing adultery at the same rate as men. The AJC had an article saying the majority of 'white collar' bosses in Atlanta are middle aged women. Our sheriffs, police chiefs in many towns, and bank presidents are now women.

    I'll start the ball rolling with this statement and then will come back to answer as time allows.

    I believe a Christian wife/ mother is to be a KEEPER AT HOME and that marriages are being ruined because of the number of women now in the workplace (CAREERS) when they don't have a true financial need to work. (Understanding that many HAVE to work because of husband's death, husband's being disabled and not including working from home such as art/ music lessons, part time jobs while the kids are in school, etc.)

    Okay, go for it!
    Diane
     
  2. MTA

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    You are absolutely correct!!!! A hearty AMEN!
     
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    I am very thankful that my mother stayed home with us. And my children told me they were grateful that they knew I would always be at home when they walked through the door, especially if they had had an awful day!

    We did without a lot of things like going out to eat, movies AT the movies, etc. But I am SO happy that we did it that way. I would have hated to miss the "first" anything that my kids did.

    I am speaking from the perspective of having a husband that did work. I know that there are things that happen that could have changed that and to God I am forever grateful that it didn't.
     
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    Looks like a Proverbs 31 woman is working quite hard in the workplace to me.

    Several years ago a friend of mine who is an insurance agent once told me that he never recommends a man take out more than three times the annual income, plus the mortgage, for life insurance. I asked why he recommended that. His response was that he had seen too many women who are left with a lot of money become lazy and do nothing and become a recluse once their husband dies.

    Growing up our whole family worked. We got up at 3:30 AM, milked the cows, went to school, came home, milked the cows and went to bed. We went out for sports at school too. Our homework got done in the spare time we had at school and home and on the weekends. I never knew what it was like to not work with my family.

    At the colleges and universities I see students wasting their parent's money, while the parents keep paying for poor performance. But the foreigners are quite different. 2/3 of the graduate students in my field are from other countries.

    If one takes a look at the welfare roles so often those receiving welfare are the chidren of welfare recipients.

    It takes both parents to raise children. It is a fact that about 75 percent of the men in prison did not have a male role model in the home.

    More is caught than will ever be taught. If the parents are motivated it is likely the children will be too.

    When I taught high school every year the valedictorian was the son or daughter of a family that worked in the fields. One time I asked a student about that. He told me that his parents worked hard and wanted him to get an education so he wouldn't have to pick vegetables like them.

    My wife works outside the home now. When the yard work needs to be done, all of us do it. When the house needs to be cleaned all of us do it. We do a lot of things together. When my wife wasn't working she did that work by herself. She did it all and we had to do nothing. We could have sat around the house and done nothing because she did everything for us.
     
  5. Debby in Philly

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    A woman should use the talents and the intelligences God has given her, whatever they are. That may mean different things in different situations. Sorry, I don't believe there's one easy answer.
     
  6. Priscilla Ann

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    I have always been a working mother, simply because there was no other way to make ends meet. I was fortunate to work as a school secretary, so I was able to be home with my son when there was no school. It worked for our family.

    My mother was a farmer's wife, so technically she did not work outside the home; however, she milked cows, did other farm chores, and helped with the field work, especially during the harvest times. My sister and I grew up with her as a wonderful model of a loving wife and mother. She always put the best interests of the family ahead of her own.

    Whether a mother works outside the home is a decision that each family needs to make for their individual situation. For most families I know, mothers work outside the home because of economic necessity. Being a stay-at-home mom is simply not an option for most families in our part of the country.

    PA
     
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    I used to think it was completely wrong, but them pesky needed things like rent and groceries and clothes changed my mind.
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    If he were a good insurance agent his personal opinion about women(as wrong as it is) would not interfer with and widowed wives and thier children would be better taken care of.
    My advice to his clients, get a new agent.
     
  9. donnA

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    A woman can commit adultry whether or not she works. And they do. So it isn't the job that casues adultry.
     
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    1 Timothy 5:11 But refuse the younger widows; for when they have begun to grow wanton against Christ, they desire to marry, 12 having condemnation because they have cast off their first faith. 13 And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not. 14 Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully. 15 For some have already turned aside after Satan.
     
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    If a wife and mother wishes to work than let her if that is her desire. Also if the household needs two incomes to support itself that happens. We should be careful set generalities for all Christendom.

    I think being able to stay at home and raise a family is a wonderful opportunity for a woman, but that isn't her thing than we should not suggest she is any less a good mother for working outside the home.
     
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    That would be her HUSBAND'S decision and not hers.
     
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    I think it is perfectly alright for wives and mothers to work if they want to, but this is my personal opinion.
     
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    Once my kiddos are in school, I dont plan on hanging around an empty house all day. But I'll be home when they are. [​IMG]
     
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    I believe that it is the mother's responsibility to be at home to take care of her home, her children and her husband!!!! I am a sahm and am thankful everyday that my husband works so hard so that I can take care of my responsibilities here at home. Working outside of the home causes so many problems....the wife having to be in charge of men, the wife having to answer to a man other than her husband, the wife getting too close to men on the job, etc, etc.

    I sure wish my mom had stayed home with us!!! I look back now and see many of the problems that we had can be traced back to me being left home alone with my siblings OFTEN and us having no accountability and we could do whatever we wanted.... Children need supervision, even teenage children!!! And even though we were homeschooled, mom worked at night, leaving us with no adult supervision... (Dad was a pastor and did visitation and other church work at night so he wasn't home, either...)

    Yes, there are times when it is necessary for a woman to work, but that is the exception to the rule, not the rule. And many times when a woman says she has to work to make ends meet, it is not true, if they looked at the extras, they would realize that it's not necessary except that they have made it necessary by their toys....very sad that children have to trade having a parent home for television and other such things that are just not necessary....

    Oh, and since I believe that children need to be homeschooled, I wouldn't have a need to get a part-time job while they are away at school, b/c they won't be away at school....

    Okay, I'm done, next.....
     
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    I ahve always been a stay home mom and now my husband likes me at home even though the kids are grown. i think it has been the best for me and my kids. But a family should be able to make their own decisions without christians trying to rule someone elses home and not just their own.
     
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    I'm a stay at home wife and I love it!
     
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    Originally posted by joyfulkeeperathome:
    I believe that it is the mother's responsibility to be at home to take care of her home, her children and her husband!!!!

    It is the responsibility of both parents. Too many husbands rely on their wives to "take care of them" so they can play and be lazy and let their wife take care of everything else.

    Dad was a pastor and did visitation and other church work at night so he wasn't home, either...)

    I would have spoken to that church and if they wouldn't help I would have quit them in a minute. I know that happened to me. I told the deacons I would be at home with my family in the evenings. I got up about 4:30 AM and studied and then in the afternoon did practical ministry until about 5:00 PM. Then one night a week I went visiting often taking my family with me. Any church that is willing to be lazy and let the pastor do all the work and neglect his family is not worthy of a pastor and does not take the Great Commission seriously. But the pastor also needs to realize God's plan is much bigger than he is. So he needs to delegate responsibility and tasks that others can do.


    And many times when a woman says she has to work to make ends meet, it is not true, if they looked at the extras, they would realize that it's not necessary except that they have made it necessary by their toys....very sad that children have to trade having a parent home for television and other such things that are just not necessary....

    That's true. The majority of things people buy are not necesary. Some women prefer to work and help others. Some of them have employees. Look at the Proverbs 31 woman. Didn't she have employees.
     
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    My dad is no longer at that church...many problems. And mom no longer works, but I'm not in their household any longer...
     
  20. dianetavegia

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    I'm in full agreement with you Julia.
     

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