Should Mom be held responsible for child being overweight

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  1. Salty

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  2. bywayside

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    I have to say yes,some times the mother uses food to pacify the child.
    If the baby is not crying the mother is happy.
    when they get older they use food for comfort.
     
  3. donnA

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    I have a lot of personal experience with this very issue.
    I'll tell you my story first.

    When I was a kid, along with potty training and learning to tie my shoes, I was taught to eat. I was taught to eat and keep eating, you had to eat everything on your plate, and eatinghad rewards, more food. Dad would most night stop and bring home goodies, maybe candy bars, maybe sarah lee, (used to they had fresh not frozen, anyone else remember that red coconut cover full size cake, it was my favorite). So here, eat this pate full, and we reward you with cake. And I mean I was young when this started, I remember it back along with my earliest memories, well before I was old enough for school.
    So I was taught food was a reward, and food was comforting, food was where you went when life wasn'ty fair.
    Your parents taught you to walk, use the potty, feed yourself, dress yourself, tie your own shoes, your moral values or lack of, and what else, a lot more, and this is what my parents taught me. I see all the time parents encourage to not only feed their kids healthy, but teach them to make healthy choices. Mine didn't. What a parent teaches their kid about food early in life will stick with them, alwasy Is this true for every child, probably not, some grow up and do their own thing, eaither learn to eat healthy, or learn to eat unhealthy if they were taught to do so.
    So I was over weight early in life. Taught to seek food for comfort, it was right to eat lots of food, you were encouraged to eat lots of food.
    Obesity can be and in a lot of cases is genetic, it is in my family. But when a child is taught properly they don't have to grow up and be obese. But the genetics helps to occur with a lot less work at it then those who it is not genetic.
    So it's taken me till mid 40's to learn to break from what I was taught as a child. It is always a battle.
    I've seen young children, larger then I was at their age. I saw a 3 year old on tv once who was 155 pounds. And mom making excuses all the way. He won't eat healthy foods, all he'll eat is hotdogs, and chocolate milk. I watched a girl at church from pre school to young adult, going to collage this fall. Very over weight kid, and obese adult. She doesn't know how to do anything else, it's was she was taught and told was right.
    I kow theres alot of information out there, but when I was younger there wan't. You had to buy the right magazine at the right time, or happen to watch that 2 minutes on tv at the right monent. even doctors didn't give out the right information. I gained over 100 pounds and my doctor never once telling me I needed to lose weight. I always though if it got bad, and dangerous he'd tell me. He didn't. So i thought i was ok.
    It's only been the last 10 years or so the needed information was readily available for anyoen to get, anywhere.
    This boy in the op is a teenager. Now I raised my kids not eating junk, we never ate out, couldn't afford it. I did not keep sodas and junk in the house. I had thin kids, active kids. Until late teens, when they decided to eat wrong. You can't contro what your teenagers are eating when you aren't with them, when they aren't eating the food you've got at home.
    but this boy is only 14, and 555 pounds. he's been obese a long time. Wpuld have had to be obese as a child, would probably started being over weight before he went to school. So how long has she worked a double shift? Fourteen years? Probably not. She taught her kid to eat, to get comfort from food, and she ket on feeding him , and feeding him wrong. theres entiely too information out there these days, it's really common, it's on tv all the time, in every magazine you see, book after book, and what about doctors, don't most monitor this or what? (even though mine obviously didn't care, they can't all be like this).
    This si one fo the great problems with working moms. Usually their eat resturant foods. I've watched it for years.Families eat junk food 4 or 5 days a week, and soemtime smore. And watched their kids grow up over weight. soemtimes no way around it mom has to work, single parent families (divorced or never married, kids just oe of the causalties). The kids are always the sacrifice.
    everytime I seen kids like this on tv my thought is someone should do something. Remove that child to a healthier enviroment. Mom needs to be arrested for negelect and abuse.
    These stories make me so angry. They have ruined their child, their lives. and not cared, only make excuses for themselves, and never taking responsibilty for their child.

    it goes way beyond a kid and temper trantrums, and pacifyinga kid, they need pacifying with food becasue they were told this is acceptable behavior. this will effect these kids the rest of their lives. It's never a child's fault when they had food shoved into their mounths, told this is what they are supose to do. Even a young teenager like this boy, because he has obviously been over weight probably most , if not all, of his life. If you become obese as an adult, and weren't over weight as a child, then thats your fault. but I like this boy and so many others was trained to be obese. it took me this long to figure it out and get rid of it.
     
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  4. webdog

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    I would say the child's pediatrician should be as much to blame as anyone. To not catch this before the child got so large? Inexcusable! Unfortunately we live in a fallen world where EVERYTHING is tainted by sin, including our metabolism. The blame should be shared equally with Dr., mother and the child's genes.
     
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    If she didn't have time to properly cook for her son, she certainly didn't have time to take him to a doctor--so there probably is no doctor in the picture.
     
  6. donnA

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    If a mother doesn't care for her child whatelse is she supose to do, this is to one of her priorities in life. Theres no excuse for not cooking for your family. But I've noticed frozen food is more and more popular, and is probably over 50% of whats in stores.(along with non frozen already prepared foods). A guarentee your not serving healthy foods to children.
    My job (or one of them) as Robert's wife is to prepare him tasty and healthy foods. If I were able to work, that would still be my #1 job, taking care of my husband(family if I had children at home).
    And I agree about the doctor, if he's seen a doctor i the last 5 years then the doctor knew about this.
     
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    If this is true...then the blame falls entirely on the mother. It will be interesting to hear more as the story unfolds.
     
  8. Spinach

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    Yes, I blame the Mother. This is inexcusable!
     

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