I know that term gets tossed around quite a bit and at times, it's wrongly used but in this case, it's spot on. A friend of mine is going through this with her pastor and it's horrible. Unfortunately, it's her husband's church and the pastor and his wife, Mrs. Pastor (ordained) really took her husband under their wing so it's not just a pastor/congregant situation but a surrogate parent situation as well. But man - the abuse is so clear! I'm just praying that he will see what is going on for what it is and be able to leave that church. SIGH Sometimes I want to be standing behind someone and be doing this to them: :BangHead: or this: :tonofbricks: In this case, Mr. and Mrs. Pastor need both.