Two major questions: 1) what should a child call a step-parent does age make a difference - suppose the child is 3,6,12, 16? How about the realtionship the child has with his bio dad - say it is at a minium fair and 10 year old Johnny calls his bio father "Dad" - thus what does he call Step dad 2) How much authority should Step Dad have over his step children? What kind of discipline should he give - or should he defer all discipline to mom. Often a child will say "You are not my real Dad" Another problem is that both Bio parents may be too lienint with the kids - so they (the parents) will stay on the good side of the children. Say mom has full custody - if Step-dad insists on proper discipline - then Bio mom might be afraid that Johnny will say at age 14 "the judge said I now can choose who I want to live with, and I choose Bio dad" (because Dad gives me everything I want and lets me do anything I want to do) Have you seen situations like this in your church? How do you handle - especially - step kids who misbehave in church- with no assistance from parents/step-parents.