There is a similar thread in the pastoral ministries section on abusive churches. I don't think churches have exclusive rights on abuse. Pastors dish out their fair share, too. Just wondering how many of you have had miserable experiences with pastors who abuse their position. Please don't name the pastor or the church. Example 1: DH's grandmother co-signed a car loan for her pastor. Shortly thereafter, the pastor left the church and immediately quit paying the car payments. He never contacted DH's grandmother. Granny ended up paying for the car. She was well-off and could afford it, but that pastor stole that car. He never looked back and went on to the next church. It's funny, he declined the invitation to attend the church's 100th anniversary bash. Probably, because DH and family still attended. IMO, she should have had the car repo'd. Example 2: I saw my husband's spirit crushed by our last pastor on several occassions. The last time, DH was the head of the finance committee and had to recommend some difficult cuts since the church was running in the red. The pastor tried to be supportive of DH without supporting the cuts. But then one of the men on the committee said he thought we should give the pastor a raise. In the smarmiest tone I have ever heard, the pastor turned to him and said, "I honor you, 'John'. I honor you." Turns out, the pastor knew all along that this man wanted to give him a raise. BTW - I was there. We probably could have survived the whole situation, but we caught the pastor lying on 3 separate occassions. Who can respect that? We left the church.