The benefits of having a career outside of the home

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Gina:
I'm going to either go cry or scream now.
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Gina, I really do understand how you feel. There are days around here when I do not understand my emotions one bit! One minute I'm short with the kids, the next I'm crying, the next I feel like a total loser, and on and on it goes. And I really do feel alone or like no one else understands me. Just remember what God said:

(1 Cor 10:13 KJV) There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

And no matter how angry, frustrated, pitiful, lonely, unloved, or defeated you may feel, the Lord is with you! He'll never leave you no matter what you're going through.

 

Gina, again, I am praying for you. Please don't let this discourage you. You don't have to sort all this out in a day. You do what you have to do, and keep praying and reading God's Word. Believe it or not, he will show you his truths. In the meantime, you go on doing what you have to do.

Remember to thank God that He is more patient with us then we are! Remember that we are no longer under the law anymore! Remember that being a Christian isn't something you have to work out. Once you accept Christ you are His. Then let Him continue that work in you! Don't let others tell you how to do that, only God can do it right!

I am divorced from an abusive husband and am now remarried. I have worked and have stayed at home with my children. What is Biblical? Well divorce isn't, remarriage after divorce is a bigger no no. But guess what, God still loves me. How do I justify it? I can't justify my mistakes, I can't justify my actions, but who can justify the bruises? Who can justify the Cross? Not me. I wasn't worth Christ's suffering, but he died for me anyway. It pains Him that you are suffering now, especially since it is not of your own doing and He is there for you now. He is the one you need, not me, not anyone else here, but God is!

Never forget that one thing and all these little questions will be answered for you, in His Time.

~Lorelei

 

This conversation isn't about me. Please go ahead with the subject. Combined with the beginning of this month and a major medication switch I am not quite myself. Ok, that's putting it lightly. I am holding back, lol. I am a raving lunatic and the doctor said I will probably be one for a good month or two. Me? I'm just happy I now have an excuse!
Gina

 

I think that verse about widows remarrying has to do with their sexual desires.

I will say this in Gena's defense.

Not everyone has the privilege to have a husband that works a job that pays for all the needs. It is in the woman's ability to do the best with what she has, but if no man is there to provide for her needs, then I believe that it is her responsiblity to care for the needs of her children even if she works outside the home.

He that doesn't work doesn't eat.

 

My wife is a gifted surgeon, a skill that she wouldn't be able to maintain or use if in our home. We really didn't have to have a long discussion when our son was born and I stayed home with him. The benefits were:

- continuing to use and improve the skills she spent four years in medical school gaining

- greater financial stability since she made more than I did

- personal fulfillment since she didn't find the idea of staying at home and being our son's primary caregiver to be as enticing

Of course, my decision to stay home was predicated on similar factors and my ultimate decision that I could continue to read and do the other professional development things a clergyperson is expected to do and that giving our son a full-time caregiver was more important than professional advancement.

Joshua