A friend and colleague's soul is hurting tonight, because this week he had to say "no" to an interim pastorate (which very likely would have led to a pastorate). It is with a church that knows this man well, and he knows them; he has preached there often, and has been well received by the people and the leadership. The church is theologically and in every other way in tune with where this man and his wife are, as a couple and individually. Furthermore, he has told me that he senses a strong call and a mission to that place. After over six years in the wilderness, he saw himself about to be put on the field again. Why did he have to say "no?" Because his precious, loving, caring, ministering, healing, wife was treated with such great meanness at previous churches (and has continued to be so treated by some from one of the churches) that she has put a permanent and absolute kabosh on any such idea--she won't even discuss it. She told him, "I will never be a pastor's wife again, and you will never be a pastor again." She is to the point of disapproving when the man preaches supply, and won't go with him if he is asked to supply in a church that has a vacant pulpit. Her husband believes in God's sovereignty, so he knows that God could change her mind, but He has chosen not to. Nonetheless, this man is emotionally and personally devastated. I heard him tell a friend that nothing in his entire life had been so difficult as saying "no" to this opportunity. I heard him say that he fears he has despised his calling and disobeyed God, and he does not know what to do. Pray for this brother and his wife--they are dear to my heart. However, here is where congregations should tread with fear, that they would so ill treat the wife of a Bible-preaching man that she would be brought to this point.