Why is this argument, or why is the doctrine you hold to, whether Calvinistic or Arminian, important to you? Is it because it speaks of God's character? Is it because it effects your ministry in a particular way? Is it your quest for truth? In the end, will it really matter that one held to Calvinistic beliefs? Will it matter that one held to an Arminian belief? And if so, how? Can both sides discuss the importance of their doctrine, e.g. how does it make a difference in the life of a believer?