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Discussion in '2003 Archive' started by Wisdom Seeker, Dec 30, 2002.

  1. Wisdom Seeker

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    I've been having repeated bad experiences with one poster. I've asked him to leave my name and any personal comments about me out of his posts, but he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. I've asked him to edit those coments out of his posts, but he won't.

    Anyway... I think I'm going to try to stick to the refuge of this particular forum for the time being. I'm going to take the high road...and remove myself from his temptation. Do you think that's cowardly?

    [ December 31, 2002, 02:04 AM: Message edited by: WisdomSeeker ]
     
  2. Sherrie

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    Ummm...actually I do think it is wrong. If you ask him to stop....then he should stop. Send a notice to the moderator's, or even the administration. You are well received on this board, and have never been misleading that I can see to anyone. Well, come on, we all have our tempermental moments...but NO means no...and so does stop. So take it to the big guys first.

    I don't always come in here regularly so pm me if you just stay here and let me know whats going on.

    Sherrie
     
  3. donnA

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    Report him to the moderators. If you have p.m.'s he has sent send them too. I am sure the mods will help you with this harrassment.
     
  4. Wisdom Seeker

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    I have already. For now...I'm just going to stay out of his way. He can't say things about me...if I'm not there.

    I know I have my tempermental moments...That's one of things I love about you Sherrie...your not afraid to point out my "human" qualities. Yep...I have quite a temper... I get mad when people bully others, I get mad when people make personal remarks, without backing up what they said...or editting the comments out when I ask them to. And when someone pushes me...I push back. It's not exactly something that I am proud of...it is however who I am.

    It was just this kind of thing that got me fired from my first job. Someone made someone else cry, by being over the top mean to her...the bosses didn't see it of course...then I said something to her about it, I wasn't really nice...they told the bosses...and I got the boot.

    I'm going to stay here...like a good girl.

    I know, I shouldn't comment about my upset here...that's gossip...even if you leave out names. I'm just frustrated. I'm ranting...but I think I'm done now...I hope.

    On the flip side...another poster sent me a really nice p.m....kind of balanced it out a little.
     
  5. Abiyah

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    Wow! i miss a lot by just reading a few posts.
    Wish I had seen it so I could . . . so I could . . . .
    Well, just know you really are loved, Wisdom
    Seeker. Pity the guy. He must have a problem.
     
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    ((((((((((((((((((((WISDOMSEEKER))))))))))))))))))))
     
  7. Gwyneth

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    We`ll come here and visit you x
     
  8. TheOliveBranch

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    I am only saying this in love, Wisdom. I have grown to appreciate your honesty and your participation. But, I honestly don't think he said anything wrong, or offensive. I think we are all put on the spot when we take a stand. We just need to know how to react to the challenge. He may have been right in his challenge. We often need to react by typing something that will hold our ground, not a flair-up.

    I read and went directly here. I still love you and many of your answers are a benefit to others. We all have different things to say, and I know I have stepped on several toes with my stands. Don't fall into a trap. Keep up your beliefs. The best thing I like about you isn't always what you have to say, but when I see your post, I also see your beautiful smile :D
     
  9. Purple Lady

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    WisdomSeeker,
    I, for one, love your human qualities. And if you need to stay in our safe refuge for a while, hey, I'll be here with you.
    I love your honesty and you're ability to share what's on your heart.

    Carolyn
     
  10. Wisdom Seeker

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    Thanks, I appreciate that.

    One of the moderators pointed out something that I hadn't thought of before. He said that if I let one poster make me leave, then people who read and don't post, or new people might not want to stay either. He said that I should post like I have...and either the other poster will give up or his anger will get him in trouble. He also said to let him know if it gets out of hand...that's what he's there for. So... I will intrepedly post wherever I feel I might have something to say. And try real hard to let someone elses way of posting not get the better of me.

    Must be tough being a moderator...have to be fair and even tempered...and deal with problems when they arise. I know I couldn't do it. That is one hard job. God bless the moderators.
     
  11. Helen

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    Good for you, WisdomSeeker! We also do try to take care of problems as they are brought to our attention, so don't ever hesitate, anyone, to PM any of us with problems you see on the Board.

    Many blessings to all and I pray this new year will be for everyone a blessed and beautiful one.

    Helen
     
  12. Molly

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    Once again,I don't see anyone mistreating anyone on the board....I guess I am oblivious to it all.

    :confused: :confused: :confused:
     
  13. Wisdom Seeker

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    Molly... I'm glad you are the way you are...I wish I was more like that...My husband is that way... Probably one of the reasons I married him. I'm volitile and passionate and can see past exteriors, way too much...and he's easygoing and even tempered, he can always see the up side, and never sees anything negative, ever...we balance each other out.

    Another reason you may not have seen anything...is because you didn't know where to look. If you went to my past posts to find the problem...you wouldn't probably have found anything... because my perspective was not just my personal experience , but how I've seen them treat others. Just because you didn't see anything...doesn't mean nothing happened. You can't possibly see every post on this board...it's just too big. Besides whether or not you saw anything...doesn't really matter...It's over now.

    Helen as always...thank you for your part in helping.

    [ January 02, 2003, 05:40 PM: Message edited by: WisdomSeeker ]
     
  14. Molly

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    Edited because I changed my mind! :D [​IMG]

    [ January 02, 2003, 05:20 PM: Message edited by: Molly ]
     

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