The Role of the Husband

I can't believe you put that last line in there!:laugh:

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... :thumbs:

 

Wow I appreciate being used as an example...not...My husband was my husband and when he said jump I said how high. Most women are that way sorry to say. I know of some women I used to hang out with that had to call hubby on his cell even to ask if they could buy a new shirt etc. Now I wasnt that bad! I would love to find a man who loved God and his wife and family but so far in almost 15 years of dating one hasnt crossed my path.

 

How long have you been married? I ask because if your breakup/divorce is recent how can you have been dating for 15 yrs?
Obedience is not a bad thing. Some men do not knw how to handle a christian/godly marriage and abuse the obedience issue. Some women have no idea what biblical obedience is and allow themselves to be wrongfully used. This does not make biblical obedience wrong.

 

Evidently not many men here willing to discuss the biblical role of the husband.

 

The Role of the Husband

Luk 5:24But that ye may know that the Son of man hath power upon earth to forgive sins, (he said unto the sick of the palsy,) I say unto thee, Arise, and take up thy couch, and go into thine house.

Luk 10:7And in the same house remain, eating and drinking such things as they give: for the labourer is worthy of his hire. Go not from house to house.

according to scripture, are you going to deny the word!!!!!!!!

BBob,

 

LOL, sounds like a man alright.

 

Are you saying I should treat my wife like a herd of animals? :laugh:

Really God says I need to lay down my life for my wife as christ laid down his for the church. In other words I need to be her servant and care about her more than I do myself. On the other hand don't tell anyone I've told you so especially my wife! :laugh:

 

nothing much to say after quoting Scriptures.

In our country they had this liquor ad. Shows a mucled man, with a sexy woman in the background, and in the foreground, the whisky being advertised.
The "voice" says; Drink....the drink for the real man".

Then you all know the Marlboro man. The picture of masculinity. Finished a hard day's work. Takes his horse up on yonder ridge. Looks down at those awesome longhorns. Lights up his smokes. You get the message: real men smoke marlboro.

The real man though is the one who comes home after an honest day's work, and reads the Bible to his children, raising them in the right fear of the Lord, making sure, for as long as the Lord wills, that there is food on the table, clothes on their backs, and a roof above their heads.

He stays at home on days off, and spends his time with his family. He is the boss of the house, but not the slavemaster. His word is law, but not a dictator. He knows when his wife is right, and is willing to give in when she is.

That is a man, and that is the role of a husband.
Now, not all men will make that standard, but to have most of those qualities at least is good enough.

men like superwoman8977's husband, if she described him truthfully and accurately, are wimps, and i don't care how many medals-of-honor he may have been given or recommended for (figuratively, not literally).

 

Yea, but they say they are always right............

BBob,

 

maybe. but in that case, in my book, that guy is a wimp out.

 

Yea, unless of course she is right all the time.

BBob,

 

Men

I appreciate this topic because the roles of men and women are things not preached on much in our Baptist churches. I have had the opportunity to be in many churches ove the past few years and I have noticed something across the board; men are missing in our churches because real, biblical men are missing in our homes. In many churches most of the Sunday School teachers are women, 90% of the VBS leadership is women, and the bulk of our committees are made up of women. Men are jus not stepping it up; loving their wives like Christ loved the church and taking their role as fathers seriously.

I could go on for days but I wont. I do hope these post on this topic will open up the eyes of some men the the need for their leadership.

 

One reason you might hear more sermons on the role of women is that most sermons are preached by men (often husbands). Sometimes it is harder to hit a target when your that close to it.

I will say something about my role as a husband. I have been married for 19 years now. There was a time when my role as head of the house put an incredible burden on me. I felt responsible for my wife. I was a very controlling husband. I wanted to control how she looked, what she wore, where she went, what she did. But at least part of the reason for this was that I felt responsible for her. Not only was I responsible to provide for her and protect her but I was responsible for her happiness, and I was responsible to God when she failed to live up to his perfect law (of which I of course was the perfect judge).

When I realized that my wife was an actual human being, responsible to God for herself it was the start of a real relationship we lacked for many years. Yes, I am the head of the house, but God does not hold me accountable for her actions.

I am to love my wife as Christ loves the church, unconditional, undeserved love, love that existed when we were still lost. My love for my wife is not dependent on her actions. Do you see that guys? If our love for our wives is a picture of God’s love for us; than it has to be unconditional. He loved us, while we were yet sinners. I have to love my wife no matter what she does. She did not earn my love, she cannot keep my love, my love for her is (at least supposed to be) an unchanging fact. If she leaves me to play the harlot like Hosea’s wife, I am still commanded to love her (as God loved Israel when she ran off after other gods). If she submits to my authority and respects me in return, I still love her (although that is a lot easier).

Men, our role in the home is supposed to picture God. That should not give you a big ego that says, “wife, worship me,” but should impress upon you the impossible standard to which we are held.

 

see what i mean?

 

My husband

You have described my husband!

 

My husband

Sorry! Had a double post, so edited this one out...I'm only on my FIRST cup of coffee, after all!

 

Here is another aspect not talked about yet, but it is the fact that the husband is the both the 'Head' of the wife and also the home (1 Cor 11:3; 1 Tim 3:5; ). Therefore the husband alone is held accountable to God for His family and wife. The wife is not held accountable for the husband or the family nor are the children the wife and husband but is resposiblity held against the husband alone.

He is resposible for the marriage, spiritual guidance (though not that he is the only to give guidance), et... While it is true the wife is held accountable for her own spiritual life this does not preclude the husbands resposibility of it 'as well'.

A good and short peice on it can be seen Here

We find the this view (authority, submission, love, accountability) of the Husband and wife in same illistration of Christ and His Bride (the Church).

Who is ultimately accountable for the Brides spotlessness - Christ is. Though the bride is to be sanctified or seperated in what she does as well (thus accountable for herself as well), yet the resposibility that she might be found blameless and without spot is upon her Husband.

Does that mean that if she is not he will be punished? No, but what he has or has not done will stand either for or against him on that day.

The wife is to submit to her husband just as the Church (bride) is to submit herself to Christ. The husband however is to love her to the point of self sacrifice just as Christ gave himself for the Church.

Just as Christ is sympathetic to our cries so is the husband to his wife yet all that he does is not to appease her but grow, establish, and protect her and his family as well.

His heart should be unleashed toward and for her alone in humility that in so doing brings a yieldedness from her love that submits to itself by desire not force.


Editted in -- > I realize this is a thread about husbands and not wives but the effect of submissiveness culminates from the sacrificial love of the husband. Yet if the husband is not godly or even saved it then her submissiveness is a responce to the love of Christ and obedience to him that submissiveness still flows to bringing back or possibly even the salavation of the husband. What I'm saying is that submissiveness is not obedience but yeildedness BECAUSE of the husband at the very least and Christ at the most. It still falls toward the husband being responsible EVEN FOR HER submissiveness.

 

Yeah that is not a concept many men understand nor do the women who wish to take charge.

Very few people will want to be accountable for themselves but to add to it all of your family and for pastors the entire congregation!?

If this was taught more to our children growing up it would sure make picking a mate something done more thoughtfully on both sides - husbands & Wives.

 

Wow!

wow! Good post....gives us room for thought as to raising our two boys...to instill in them a capacity for taking responsibility.....thanks for your study on this matter!