Hi everyone. I originally posted this in the prayer requests section, but it was suggested that I move it here. Hi. I am seeking Godly counsel. I do not want a divorce. I feel that I have had about all I can stand, though. I have been married for 5 1/2 years. When we were married, my husband had been at his job for 11 years, and he was 28 years old. Pretty awesome, I thought. He was kind, considerate, a hard worker, punctual, I could go on and on. Since we married he has had 4 jobs and each job has been a cut in pay. We are in debt over our ears. Last Spring we made an agreement with his parents that we would build a house(one room studio apartment is more like it: 500 sq. ft.) on their land (It would be paid for by us, but would be theirs after three years.), live in it for 3 years, and during that time we would work to become debt free and then save to build a house of our own. I was promised that we would be in the house by the end of August, at the latest. We have been living with his parents since May. I have severe allergies, and his dad is a chain smoker. The man even wakes up in the night to smoke! The house is so filthy that I won't even go barefoot in it. I run air filters in our bedroom to try to combat the polluted environment. All this is to explain why I am so frustrated. My husband is not working on the house- at least not much. Two hours in the past two weeks. His income is half what it was when we married. We agree that when we have children, that I will stay at home. Maybe even homeschool them. Yet we aren't even making ends meet now, with no children. My clock is ticking and I am fed up. I cannot in good conscience bring children into this marriage as it is. I am not willing to face the thought of a childless life. I was an only child and my dream is a house filled with the pitter-patter of little feet. My husband has turned into a lazy, grouchy, selfish man. I just don't know what to do. We have been through counseling, he clammed up- wouldn't talk. Basically, the counselor told me we were wasting our time and money if he wasn't going to open up and talk about things. This is a "quick" snapshot of how I see our marriage- to try to show where we are. I covet your prayers and advice. I am at the end of my rope.