Ten Ways to Know Someone is Leaving Your Church [LINK] Here are the warning signs that indicate a potential move towards the back door is underway. A decrease or complete loss in financial support. The wife’s body language. Tardiness to responsibilities. Minor items cause major frustrations. Complaining. Excitement over another church’s vision. Divorce. Resignation of a volunteer position. No connection to a small group. A Mega-church opens a satellite location in your community.