My best friend: (a non-Calvinist)...and I, have a saying that we like to confirm with one another...We sometimes like to re-iterate to one another that: "Free-will is a _ _ _ _ _ " Do Calvinists unerstand this? Do they understand that "Free-willers" take little or NO comfort whatsoever in the notion that we have "free-will"?....Our own sin is (Psychologically) "Ever before me"....We see ourselves, as so ridiculously to blame, personally, as beings capable of righteousness...Yet ever so sinful... Calvinists seem to like to argue that the "Free-will" idea is somehow a form of comfort or an escape for us...It is no such thing (I assure you). NOTHING would bring the "sheep" more comfort (in the Arminian fold)...Than to think that GOD is merely in his own time, and according to his Sovereign will, perfecting us "elected" to be more perfectly "conformed" according to his own "Sovereign will"... Do Calvinsts ACTUALLY BELIEVE that we LIKE the notion of "Free-Will"? Do Calvinists actually think that we would..in our "flesh" wish to believe in such a thing??? As a rule...we don't...It renders our own sense of guilt so personally and inescapably our own. We feel so keenly our own sense of responsibility, and our own sense of personal guilt. Our "flesh" wants nothing more than to blame our own sinfulness on something OTHER than our own choices...I make no argument about whether the Scriptures teach one point of view, or another....I merely think that if this issue is understood and resolved..than many a Calvinist will pause before adopting the view they posses. It is as painful for an Arminian to adopt our view as it is painful for a Calvinist to adopt theirs...They both hurt...Only a liar speaks other-wise. I can understand the many Calvinist arguments which are posed to support their point of view...But NOTHING actually sickens me more than their false idea that non-Calvinists are so...because we "LIKE" or are drawn to...or "WISH" or "WANT" to have "free-will"....We don't. It makes us sick...and we wish it weren't the case, quite often actually. It lays upon us nothing more than a weight of guilt which is anything but comforting...We quite often HATE the fact that we have "free-will"... Whatever the reason we believe in it...it isn't because we "like" it, or find it to be somehow more comforting. Many Calvinist assumptions and their Apologetics might fall away if this mis-conception is cleared away... I Believe in "free-will"...It would be of in-estimable comfort to me if I didnt't!!! Do any Arms/free-willers know what I mean by this, who might attest to it?