What Do You Do About Crushes?

Discussion in 'Pastoral Ministries' started by Jamal5000, Oct 10, 2003.

  1. Jamal5000

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    I suspect that one of my 14 year old female students may be developing a crush on me.

    How do you think I can handled this in the most delicate way possible?

    Thanks, everyone

    J5Grand
     
  2. Jim1999

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    You would not be the first, and surely won't be the last.

    In my early days, I have seen the front row of pews fill with every eligible young lady in town. There was something about dating the new, young, single minister.

    I set a policy early on never to date a girl in my parish. I know you said this girl is only 14, the perfect age for crushes.

    The crushes come and go, and you can let it pass without further ado. Don't pay particular attention to it or to her. Don't ever be alone with her or set her apart from the group. In other words, don't fuel the fire.

    Cheers, and best wishes,

    Jim
     
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    Showing up at a church function or two with a nice-looking adult female companion might do the trick.

    Not that I ever had a problem with crushes--the only reason I got Mrs. Major B is that she had real bad eyesight...
     
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    That is quite comon for teenagers. Treat everybody the same. Always be sure you have someone else with you. Try to never be alone with anyone of the oposite sex.
     
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    ROFL don't get a big head about it young girls always get crushes on people of an authority no matter how ugly they are [​IMG] (j/k).

    Seriously, crushes are just that. She will forget all about you when that cute boy in her math class throws a smile her way and says hi!


    Oh yes, and PS... Whatever you do, watch what you say to her. Make sure that you NEVER even seem to be flirting back with her in any way.
     
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    I had a daughter that has a big problem with this type of behavior, and one time, that I know of, with a married man, despite what my wife and I taught and told her, Scripturually.

    And then this type of behavior was encouraged by our Pastor, his wife, and some other people of the church.

    With out my wife and my knowing about it!
     
  7. Jamal5000

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    Thanks for the input, everyone.

    I will watch myself 'cause she's the type that likes to stare (i.e. I look up from the choir stand all the time and catch a glimpse of her eyeballing me with that longingness kinda look). It doesn't help that this young one respects me in to 99th degree. Multiple that degree by 100 to equal the amount of respect her her aunt and grandmother have for me.

    Sometimes I wonder how ecclesiastical authority figures wade through these things, especially men. As my co-workers tell me "what woman in her right mind no matter what age would not want a single genuine god-fearing man?"

    Sheesh. Help Me Jesus. [​IMG]
     

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