What Do You Do When...

Discussion in 'General Baptist Discussions' started by DeadMan, Dec 6, 2005.

  1. DeadMan

    DeadMan
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 11, 2005
    Messages:
    298
    Likes Received:
    0
    What does one do when their spouse announces she wants to become Catholic? Yes, I am now faced with this very question! :(
     
  2. cojosh

    cojosh
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 12, 2002
    Messages:
    206
    Likes Received:
    0
    First, you need to determine why she wants to become Catholic. What is your spiritual & denominational background? Have both of you been saved very long?
     
  3. DeadMan

    DeadMan
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 11, 2005
    Messages:
    298
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yes, she was raised Church of Christ but is now a Baptist and I was raised in a "non-practicing" Catholic home but was saved on 4/4/95 in a Baptist church. Not "baby Christians" but not theologians, either.
     
  4. chipsgirl

    chipsgirl
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 8, 2004
    Messages:
    2,832
    Likes Received:
    0
    I would make a meeting with your pastor or the marriage counselor at your church immediately.
     
  5. cojosh

    cojosh
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 12, 2002
    Messages:
    206
    Likes Received:
    0
    ******I would make a meeting with your pastor or the marriage counselor at your church immediately*******

    This is very good advice.
     
  6. Helen

    Helen
    Expand Collapse
    <img src =/Helen2.gif>

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2001
    Messages:
    11,703
    Likes Received:
    1
    I would start family Bible reading time immediately. Get a Concordance. Start with the word "Rock" and see if Peter was really the 'rock'.

    Ask her if she can honestly, in saying the Rosary, declare Mary instead of Christ as her 'sweetness and light.'

    It's time you two started really getting to know God's Word yourselves.
     
  7. DeadMan

    DeadMan
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 11, 2005
    Messages:
    298
    Likes Received:
    0
    We both do know God's Word well enough to know better than this, but she is claiming she "needs" religion to be closer to God! When I point out the Scriptures I'm sure each of you is thinking about right now, she still sticks to the above statement! And, to top that, she has an appointment with a catholic priest next Thursday but no plans to meet with our Pastor! I'm at a complete loss. I am certainly seeing my marriage completely fall apart and I just don't know what to do now. Maybe seek an attorney would be a good idea. I just don't know.
     
  8. John of Japan

    John of Japan
    Expand Collapse
    Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 22, 2005
    Messages:
    12,212
    Likes Received:
    192
    My heart goes out to you, brother. However, perhaps seeking an attorney would be an escalation on your part. What message would this send to your wife?

    If you vowed at your wedding "for better or for worse," surely this meant even if your wife decides to become a Catholic. The Bible teaches us husbands in Eph. 5:25, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." It is loving your wife with this incredible, unselfish, sacrificial love, and the power of prayer, which can save your marriage. Dedicate your life to prayer and to unconditionally loving your wife with all your heart, and God will without a doubt help you.
     
  9. DavidsonBap

    DavidsonBap
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 21, 2005
    Messages:
    84
    Likes Received:
    0
    Wow. I can't imagine a break up happening over this. There are so many worse things out there in my opinion. She loves Jesus, you love Jesus...don't give up a marriage because protestants and catholics can get their act together. They are brothers and sisters in Christ I believe. Oh well...if you lose somebody you love because you can't accept them as a Catholic than be alone your whole life because I have seen a lot more things that warrant a break than this. It's a sad thing. Support your wife. She loves you and you her. The best thing in the world is to have you by her side. My two cents.
     
  10. DeadMan

    DeadMan
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 11, 2005
    Messages:
    298
    Likes Received:
    0
    Although I appreciated your entire reply and intend to dedicate myself to prayer and give it to God, I have to tell you this made me laugh! This, in my opinion, definitely qualifies as "worse"! [​IMG]
     
  11. Brother Ian

    Brother Ian
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 27, 2005
    Messages:
    1,065
    Likes Received:
    0
    DeadMan,

    Don't give up! God can do all things. As others have said, you must immerse yourselves in the Word. Jesus condemned religion for the sake of religion. Please do not take offense at this, but if she is truly saved, I believe the Holy Spirit is kicking against every bone in her body giving her complete unrest. . . unless she is ignoring the Spirit.

    Try to get her to meet with your pastor. Tell him first what is going on so he can be prepared.

    I'm certain, all who have read this thread are praying for this situation. Please keep us informed.
     
  12. Ben W

    Ben W
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Sep 16, 2002
    Messages:
    8,868
    Likes Received:
    0
    Be proactive, why dont you go along to see the priest, and let him know in no uncertain terms exactly what you think, and that it is totally against your will that she join his church.
     
  13. bapmom

    bapmom
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Sep 3, 2005
    Messages:
    3,091
    Likes Received:
    0
    absolutely do not go see an attorney. She will definitely see this as an escalation on your part, and possibly even an ultimatum. It could even backfire in your face, and push her closer to the Catholic church.

    I agree with you that this is a very serious issue. And this is more than just a "catholic vs. protestant" moment. But you cannot leave your wife over this, nor should you even think of making this become a divorcable issue....and don't let divorce become something you threaten her with. (dont know that you have...just in case.)

    If I were you, Id go see my pastor alone if she won't come with you. You make an appointment for BOTH of you, tell her you'll go with her to see the priest (dont let her go alone), but ask her to respect you enough to come see your pastor with you. If she refuses to go, I say you must still go with her to see that priest. I wouldnt let her alone in the room with him. (I mean without yourself.)

    Id also bring up to the priest that she is seeking this against your leadership as head of the household, and if he's truly a "man of God" than he ought to uphold your authority as the head of the house. If he continues to encourage her to go against her husband's wishes than he is coming between the two of you. This last is off the hip for me....others may have an opinion in this regard. But right now this seems to me like a good idea.

    I'll be praying for you both.
     
  14. DeadMan

    DeadMan
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 11, 2005
    Messages:
    298
    Likes Received:
    0
    Man, I do appreciate all of your comments and of those who will post on this. Most importantly I appreciate your prayers. I'm a firm believer that prayer works! And I have taken the divorce option off the table and apologized to her for threatening her with it.

    As for going with her to see the priest, I cannot. My job keeps me away during the week and she has set up her appointment with him for Thursday.

    The good news is this: We just ended a 5 hour discussion on the issue. I have learned that she is angry with God for a variety of issues and she says she's considering catholicism because it causes her to "stay focussed" even when she is angry with Him. She is, however, going to set up an appointment to see our pastor so maybe there is a glimmer of hope! I am emailing him tonight to give him a head's up. Any more opinions are definitely welcomed!
     
  15. gb93433

    gb93433
    Expand Collapse
    Active Member

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2003
    Messages:
    15,496
    Likes Received:
    6
  16. gb93433

    gb93433
    Expand Collapse
    Active Member

    Joined:
    Jun 26, 2003
    Messages:
    15,496
    Likes Received:
    6
    If she decides to meet with that priest you go with her too.

    Some like the idea of stained glass windows and the feel of an ornate building. They feel as though there is something more spiritual about that.

    At http://www.newadvent.org/ is a link to a Catholic encyclopedia and a number of other things.

    Ask her about purgatory, indulgences and praying for the dead. That is all part of Catholicism.
     
  17. Watchman

    Watchman
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Mar 29, 2003
    Messages:
    2,706
    Likes Received:
    0
    I have no doubt that I will raise someones' ire here, but the R.C.C. is a cult with a very bad past. It tortured and murdered all those that opposed it. Get some history on this church to show her. A good point to start at, perhaps, is Foxes Book of Martyrs. Ask if she really wants to be a part of such an organization. There are plenty of places here on the internet that can help with information. I even have an excellent movie to send you if you want to drop me a p.m. with your mailing address. It shows how the R.C.C. kept people from having God's Word in their own language, and murdered those who tried to provide it to the common people. No doubt it was because some people would see that the doctrines and practices of the R.C.C. were blasphemous and nonsense.
    I am afraid it is time for some tough love here, very tough love. Do whatever it takes (within the law and Christian principles of course) to steer her clear of this dreadful organization and don't give up.
     
  18. DavidsonBap

    DavidsonBap
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 21, 2005
    Messages:
    84
    Likes Received:
    0
    Roman Catholics are Christians. They are brothers and sisters in Christ. Cult...I wouldn't say that. I think the RCC has its share of a negative past, but I know many Roman Catholics who are wonderful believers of Christ. Anyway, if there is a major need to keep this wife in question from the RCC than exhaust your energy on it. However, this could be used as an opportunity to work together. I know a few RCC and Protestant couples. I find they have wonderful relationships based on understanding and faith. That's me though. I'm sure some on this board can't stand the idea.
     
  19. buckster75

    buckster75
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Aug 2, 2005
    Messages:
    792
    Likes Received:
    0
    there should be no speaking to a wife about spiritual matters without the husband present. The husband is the spiritual leader.
     
  20. DavidsonBap

    DavidsonBap
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 21, 2005
    Messages:
    84
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yeah.
    Anyway, if this lady chooses to become a Catholic her husband can either suck it up or have a tantrum. There is no compulsion in religion. I hope they can work it.
     

Share This Page

Loading...