forgiving those who haven't asked for your forgiveness? I'm having a really difficult time forgiving right now. My marriage of 15 years with 2 young sons is ending in a few days and there's nothing I can do about it I know except to keep praying. Come to find out that the Pastor from our church was having an affair with my wife. So now I have lost my wife, family and Pastor who I also considered a friend. Yet he to this day has yet to ask for forgiveness despite admitting to the affair. What does the Bible say about me forgiving him?