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What would you do if you were me?

Discussion in '2000-02 Archive' started by susanpet, Aug 21, 2002.

  1. Don

    Don Well-Known Member
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    Smile, say "Thanks for your concern," and go get some more cake.

    If they persist, go to the bathroom. While there, pray.
     
  2. Thankful

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    Smile sweetly and pretend you have lost your voice [​IMG] [​IMG]

    I think the key here is not to argue or try to defend yourself. Perhaps your husband wants you to go to his church all the time. If not, maybe he could step in and "protect" you.

    I would earnestly pray that your husband come to believe the way you do and join your church.

    We pray this day for you that you can go with your husband and have a pleasant time without a panic attack.
     
  3. SAVED4LIFE

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    What is "oneness"???
     
  4. Abiyah

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    Is it the church people or your husband's family
    members who say these things to you? If it is
    mainly your husband's family members, not the
    church members, you may be able, in some way,
    to separate yourself from the ones who do this
    and to realize that it is not al of them.

    Regardless of who is doing it, it is pure harass-
    ment, but they actually think they are helping
    you. I think that a quieted spirit is more benefi-
    cial than an argumentative one; they LOVE to
    argue, and usually, what you describe is an
    attempt to set you up for argument.

    Oneness is basically the opposite of Trinitarian
    belief. They baptize in the name of Jesus only.
    There's a lot more, but it is very involved and a
    very old teaching from an ancient false prophet.
     
  5. Alex

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    What part of Washington ST.? I grew up in Kelso/Longview,WA. Thanks! :D

    God Bless....Alex
     
  6. Thankful

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    Some scriptures for you:

    In God, whose word I praise, In God I have put my trust; I shall not be afraid. What can mere man do to me? Psalm 56:4

    A gentle answer turns away wrath. Proverbs 15:1

    When a wise man has controversy with a foolish man, the foolish man either rages or laughs, and there is no rest. Proverbs 29:9

    A fool's mouth spouts folly. Proverbs 15:2

    Do not answer a fool according to his folly, lest you also be like him Answer a fool as his folly deserves, lest he be wise in his own eyes. Proverbs 26:4-5
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    You know the old saying: Don't let them get your goat!!!!

    Stand firm in your faith. There is no reason to be afraid of these people and what they think or say to you. Smile and speak with a sweet spirit. You are not going to be able to change their views of your beliefs or your church.

    You can usually find some good in others' beliefs. Look for the good. Listen to our Lord.
    He will guide you.

    Be Strong in the Lord. Pray.

    And be sure to report back after the party.
     
  7. susanpet

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    I want to thank all of you for your support and prayers.
    Someone mentioned to enjoy because it is in honor of my husband's bithday. I am sorry, I should have said that it is a bi-monthly event to celebrate member's birthdays for those two months. It is not my husband's birthday.

    I could quote the bible verse for verse and still be told I don't know who Jesus is because I haven't "taken on his name" in baptism.

    It is his family and the church members who attack me. And I worry what will be said to my daughter.

    Yes, he would rather I go to his church all the time instead of the one I belong to. And for him taking up for me at the dinner, well I just don't see it happening. He never has before.

    I hope I am worrying over nothing ;) I tend to do that a lot. I've even tried to think up an excuse not to go, but can't think of one. [​IMG]

    In Christ
    Susan

    P.S. If things get too rough, I will take my daughter and leave and he can ride home with his family. :D
     
  8. Thankful

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    We hope you are worrying for nothing also, but the trouble by worrying about it now, you may be going through the misery twice.
     
  9. susanpet

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    Yeah, Thankful, you are absolutely right! I have been worrying ever since he told me I was going. I have had a tension headache everyday this week :( Maybe I'm making too much of this, we'll see....

    Susan ;)
     
  10. Helen

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    HI Susan,

    Go.

    And be gracious and diplomatic. Make this a good evening for your husband.

    And if there are any questions or confrontations tell them you love Jesus, too, but right now you are concentrating on loving and honoring your husband. Refuse to go any further.

    Have you ever had acting lessons.... :D
     
  11. FearNot

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    It would seem you know the questions they will ask. So now you have to know the Scripture that will refute the questions.

    Trinity, Gen. "Let us create man in our own image." This supports the trinity. Who else would God be speaking to? Christ, and the Holy Spirit.

    tongues, I can't remember the location of the verse, but it was Paul's writing about tongues that he mentions that not everyone has the same gifts. Some have tongues some others, not all parts of the body (of Christ, the church) have the same parts, we all have different functions. No where in the Bible does it say tongues are required for salvation. It says no gets to the Father without me (Jesus). Not Jesus plus tongues, money, family,song etc.

    The Mark. We Christians that use our Bible and believe it are watching to make sure we recognize who the beast, antichrist will be. By staying attentive, we will not accept the mark.

    You seem very nervous, like I said before, tell your husband you will not tolerate being abused. Go in two cars, tell your husband if they give you a hard time, you will leave and go buy yourself a nice dinner on the way home. [​IMG]
     
  12. Abiyah

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    Excellent suggestion! And I would also watch to
    be sure they don't try to indoctrinate your pre-
    cious daughter.

    [ August 22, 2002, 06:15 PM: Message edited by: Abiyah ]
     
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    Here is a good truthful line to use to cut those sticky conversations off fast. " Oh I know what your going to say, my husband and I have talked about that already." Then to finish off "We're praying about it". Bye Bye confrontation. [​IMG]
     
  14. susanpet

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    Sounds good to me ;)

    Susan
     
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    Well, tommorrow's the big day. I don't have to tell you all how I feel :eek:
    I will try to remember your advice, but when I get cornered, all reason seems to leave me :rolleyes:
    I am very nervous today, apprehensive is the word I guess. I pray that Jesus will give me strength.
    If it's like the other times I encountered them, I am going to need all the help I can get.
    It's the way they look at me.........creepy

    Susan ;)
     
  16. susanpet

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    Well, I went to the dinner yesterday and survived :D
    Although no one tried to "convert" me, I was still treated with a cold shoulder.
    After we arrived, my husband chose to pretty much ignore me, sat with his church friends.
    Even my in-laws didn't acknowledge my prescence when they arrived. It's as if they were ashamed to be kin to a baptist, you know what I mean?
    And even during the meal, you could hear a pin drop! No laughing or cutting up of any kind :eek:
    Talk about a dry bunch!
    Oh well, I am glad it's behind me ;)

    In Christ
    Susan
     
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    Is this the only time you see your inlaws? I'm wondering if it's all their problem. What do you do for your inlaws to let them know that you love them?
     
  18. susanpet

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    Of course, I see them often. They live about a mile from me.
    But they know how I stand when it comes to doctrine.
     
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    Since you see then all the time I assume since you were married, why is this just a problem now or has it been an on-going problem? If you see them often, how come you haven't put them in their place about how you believe? I know it is easier said than done, but at some point, I would have to say, enough is enough and if they continue, you may have to quit visiting them. Again, your husband should support you in this and it is HE who should tell them to leave you alone. You have to know that if this goes on and on, something will sooner or latter happen and it may not be good. :confused: ;)

    God Bles..........Alex
     
  20. SaggyWoman

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    I would go.

    I would pick and choose my discussions and battles.

    I can always leave when I need to.
     
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