I was hoping some of you could provide me some insight into what I see as a trend among the younger pastors leading our churches today! By younger, I mean those in the 18-49 age group! I was the kind of pastor who went out of my way to make everyone, and I mean everyone, feel welcome, important and special. If I noticed that someone was not in church on the weekend, and I had not heard from them [like going to be out-of-town, on vacation, sick, etc.], I'd make a visit or at least a telephone call to let them know they were missed... If the person starting missing more and more, I'd go to great lengths to find out why, and see if there was anything I could do to get them back to church! In our church, each week we are asked to fill out an attendance card, and note special prayer needs, etc., but I think those are simply for counting attendance, because I have requested a visit or call from the pastor and gotten neither! In fact, I invited our pastor and wife over to dinner, and out to dinner on several different occasions, and only got a blank stare and what is now believed to be a polite, "We'll have to set something up, let me call you this week!" If you are following my thoughts so far, you already know that I never got a call... And this behavior is not just from this pastor. It is the same no matter where we worshiped over our 34 years of marriage! This pastor won't return phone calls; return e-mail notes; or make an attempt to reach out beyond what he does from behind the pulpit! His dad started this church, and his dad and mom, who still attend the church, were like me. They went out of their way to make everyone feel loved, important, and part of the family. And they still do this, even though they are in the 80's and retired! I have asked others if they have similar experiences in their churches, and get the same feelings! The newer generation of pastors preach lights out, but, are poor when it comes to being social! This does not mean I don't love my pastor, but, in order to make this post make sense, I needed to use him and his failings in the social arena as an example to get my question across to you! Is it that our pastors today, lack the hand's one ability and desire to build up a family and keep it close?