This isn't about Calvinism. Have you ever had someone tell you to show more grace? I am beginning to think that they think Paul was wrong in his treatment of Peter (see Gal. 2). No, true grace stands for the truth. Grace to some people is a mystical feeling of tolerance. That is not grace. That is cruel. We should not struggle with this. We are fundamentalist. Is it grace to not stand against the theology of abortion? To some people, it would violate their own ideas of grace to do so (even though in theory they are against abortion). Well, how far do you take it? Do you show "grace (actually tolerance) for: Deity of Christ Trinity Inerrancy Literal resurrection Divine inspiration Satan Demons Angels Church ordinances Timing of the rapture Elders Salvation This is just a short list. Is it grace to not confront those who do not understand? How tragic it is that people call themselves teachers of the word and don't know half of those things. Part of the problem is that people who have not studied an issue only spout what their preacher/teacher says and do not really know what they believe. In such a case, learning needs to take place. Most however shoot from the hip. No, Paul rebuked Peter publicly and severely for his compromise. That is the true spirit of reconciliation. Only when a person realizes their fault will reconciliation take place. The church hardly needs mindless tolerance.