Who Can Be A Deacon?

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  1. following-Him

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    Can a church member and more importantly, should a church member be a deacon if s/he has longstanding and outstanding issues with another/other church members?
     
  2. freeatlast

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    First a woman cannot be a deacon in the traditional sense today because of what a deacon is used for today which is basically a board of leaders making church decisions. The scriptures say a deacon must be the husband of one woman. A woman cannot be the husband. A woman is NEVER to hold an office where she has any authority over any male member. That includes making decisions for the church or any body where men are involved.

    With that said as to your question it would depend on what the issue was about and if the person who is being considered did all they could to correct the problem. Remember the offended party may not have a valid complaint or they may simply refuse any reconciliation. If they went through the steps in Matt. 18 then the problem should have been addressed and if it went so far as going before the church then the church should have rendered its judgment on the issue or issues and it should be settled atlleast in the mind of the church if not in the person claiming the offense. However if the one being considered for the position does not comply with the churches verdict or no process was taken to correct the problem then they should not be considered.
     
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    Freeatlast,

    Thank you for your response. Our church has two women deacons. I don't know what the previous issues were, but it would appear that due to various other issues which have become apparent recently there are deacons in our church who still harbour ill feeling towards some members regarding things which happened years ago and have apparently gone unresolved.
    I find this situation very sad and don't see how deacons of either gender can accept that position in the church when there are issues from the past outstanding and unresolved.

    God Bless

    Sheila
     
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    First you need to get out of that church. My gut feeling is that then Lord is judging that chjurch. They have decided to depart from scripture by making women deacons and now have lost the leading of the Spirit. If there is no repentance from the leadership and the women resign from their posirtions there can be only greater confussion. RUN and find a biblical based church.
     
  5. In Christ

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    These are the biblecal qual. for deacons.
    I would not vote for a man who did'nt meet these qual.Notice especialy v. 3.

    1Ti 3:8 Likewise must the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre;
    1Ti 3:9 Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience.
    1Ti 3:10 And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless.
     
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    Not if they are still standing.
     
  7. Marcia

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    This situation should not exist with anyone in the church, including deacons. If Christians are holding things against each other and not resolving them, they are disobeying the command to forgive and are disobeying Matthew 18. When someone has offended us or sinned against us, we are to go to that person and deal with it. Whoever needs to must forgive (and maybe both must forgive each other) and let it go. To hold on to grudges like this in a church is a bad example for other believers and hurts the body of Christ.

    If the pastor is aware of this, maybe he should call the relevant parties together in his office to resolve the issues.
     
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    "because of what a deacon is used for today which is basically a board of leaders making church decisions."
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    Not always, a lot of churches use Elders for that and consider it a seperate office.

    "They have decided to depart from scripture by making women deacons"
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    As for Scripture, Paul mentions a female deacon by name (Phoebe ) and speaks very highly of her. [​IMG]

    Yes the Greek word to describe Phoebe in Romans 16:1-2 is the same word that is used in 1 Tim. 3:8-10. Often it is translated differently to hide that embarassing little fact.
     
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    Marcia,

    We don't have elders in our church, only deacons. We have deacon elections coming up in a few weeks.

    The issues the people concerned have are with the pastor who has been with us for a couple of years now, as well as with others in the church. The trouble is that there are deacons who also harbour ill feeling of long standing with the couple concerned.

    We are feeling caught in the middle as we are friends with the couple concerned as well as with the pastor.

    Other people do not like some of the changes the pastor have made, but this couple have been particularly vocal in their objections.

    Thank you for your replies which are much appreciated. We will continue to pray.

    God Bless

    Sheila
     

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