If a husband and a wife are looking for a new church, and they have pretty well settled on one, but havent quite decided on membership and the husband just isnt sure he wants to, is kind of a moderate, not really on fire christian and may take a very long time deciding on this, should the wife join without the husband? This seems like a nobrainer to me. "Wives obey your husbands in EVERYTHING." My recommendation would be to tell that wife "absolutely not!" But recently, I have heard from a Pastor that our obedience to Christ should be higher than to our husbands, so if the husband is dragging his feet, the wife is still commanded to become an active member of a local church. I dont feel that this advice is right. ..especially since the husband IS a believer. It really seems to overstep the boundaries of submission to the husband. What it seems to really come down to is this. Who is more important for the wife to obey? The husband or the church? Also Lets say that a husband decides TO join said church, but doesnt want to attend wednesday evenings and prefers that the wife stay home with him as well. Should the wife submit to her husband and stay home, or should she be obedient to God and not forsake getting together with the assembly?