The Apostle Paul when dealing with the subject of women whose husbands die stated that a woman should not be accepted among the widows under the age of 60 and all younger women need to remarry yet I am finding that many churches are discouraging remarriage and telling these women that they are being disloyal to the deceased spouse. Then I am finding single people over the age of 30 who want to marry but are being discouraged by their church. They are being told they should not seek a mate. What is happening in churches who think they have the right to tell people what they can or cannot do. Some of these people honestly are afraid to date.