I know this topic has probably been discussed (often) on the BB, but I wanted to see if the current contributors had a change of thinking or have actually encountered the situation. Scenario: A person has more than one wife (don't confuse the issue with state legalese) and children by each. It comes to pass that he and the family are gloriously saved. Questions: What is the policy (yours and or the assembly) of accepting them for membership? When the question of marriage is raised, do you (and/or the assembly) recommend he divorce the later wife (wives) and break up the home and bond of fatherhood of the children? What of the issues raised in Sunday School when the children are questioned by other children about the living arrangements (as children will do)? What of your own home, how would you handle the question(s) by your own children when they tell of the living in ____ home? What other issues do you see being raised by the assembly or in your own personal life by this scenario? What if the situation is about a mistress with children? Would not the Scriptures consider the mistress as also married to the man? Now here is a sticky question relating to mistress and children: Just how would you approach informing the first wife that he has another secret family? In fact, is that any business of the pastor or assembly members? Remember, that the scenario is about a heathen who has been gloriously saved, and, as new to the faith and fellowship, does not have a history of Scriptural principles in which to live and be guided.