The discussion on Charles Stanley's statements re women goes on, on a Baptist Only thread. Initially not realizing it was Baptist only, I nearly posted there, then caught myself. So I will post here. There is a disturbing trend among men that I have watched in amazement over the years -- one which twists and misuses our God's intentions in His Scripture. Ignoring whether or not women should be evangelists, teachers, etc., I wlll simply focus on certain men's attitudes toward women, as a result of their understanding of the Scriptures on this thread. There is a prevailing attitude of dominance - mean, ugly, and down-right rude in some, and in others, there is an attitude of intellectual superiority that simply is not truly there, although they think it is, just because they are men. Then there are still others whose condescension toward women is, well, humorous, if it were not so sad. There. Could I have been plainer? I know that what I have written could itself be taken as very blunt, mean, vicious, etc., but we women see it and deal with it so often, and most of us keep silent about it. I just decided to bring it up -- for the first time in my life. This attitude is part of why it took so long for me to find my husband. My first not being this way, I did not realize how dominant these attitudes were until I started dating again. I thank my God that I took as long as I did to find the right man, because I do not have to deal with this in the home as well. Nowhere in the Scriptures does our God advise that men are superior intellectually. Nowhere does it say that men are to dominate women and not consider that they also have legitimate opinions, ideas, intellect, and -- shall I say it? -- rights. Oh, and nowhere does it say that men are the head of the house. Men, you are showing your weakness and your unrealistic fear when you think that you must dominate the women in your home. A real man is not afraid of loss of power when a woman is in his life. A real man will put more effort into loving his wife as our Lord loves His people, than into being noticed as the rooster (because he crows loudest), king of the castle (so everything must go his way or no way), top dog (dominating all in order to get his way no matter what). And real men's attitudes spill over abundantly from the home into other areas of his persnal life -- the job, the place of worship, etc. Don't be naive. You may crow loud, but we women can look at you and know at a glance whether you are a banty or a lion. Lions don't need to go about showing their strength -- they can just . . . be.