Women leading in the home

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  1. Lorelei

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    I have a question and I would like to hear from both men and women on this, so I did not post it in the women's forum.

    Is it ok for a woman to lead in the Bible reading/study/devotional and prayer time for her family if her husband prefers it that way?

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  2. Rev. Joshua

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    I don't see why not, but then again I believe in mutual submission. :D

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  3. HankD

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    Why not? You haven't usurped his authority.
    If he wants it that way then you are yielding to it.

    However the children need his leadership as the spiritual provider as well (imo).

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  4. donnA

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    I agree with Joshua, mutual submission.
    Especially if he prefers not too, someone has too.
     
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    I feel that it is my responsibilty as leader of my home to make sure family devotions/worship takes place. But I don't see a need for me to do all the reading/praying.

    Tonight my wife will do all the reading, my voice is gone [​IMG] (She's happy!) ;)

    [ March 11, 2002, 06:58 PM: Message edited by: TimothyW ]
     
  6. Brother Adam

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    I don't see anything wrong with it. I would wonder why he wants you to lead, if its just temporary, or if your going to share the responsibility with him. I don't see why you should have to be in charge of all of it. IMHO, the husband and wife should share the responsibility.

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  7. Joy

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    I think this is the most practical and Biblical approach! ;)
     
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    I don't see any reason you can't be the one who leads the bible studies. Our family share in the bible study. We have done this for several years. We only do it once a week so whoevers time it is next has time to get a good study together. When we started this our youngest son was only about 7 years old and you would be surprised at how good of a lesson he could bring at such a young age. I think if you feel comfortable doing the lesson and your family is for it then great. Maybe you can get them to jump in later, too.
     
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    Whatever God convicts you to do through the work of the Holy Spirit, you go ahead and do it.

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  10. Dr. Bob

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    Mutual submission?? I thought this was a BAPTIST Board! What a joy to hear that phrase. Too many messages start out one verse too late in Ephesians 5! :rolleyes:

    Personally thankful for some Lois and Eunice types out there. A lot of men are not going to do much at all, but will openly ask the wife to help in this area.

    Found my wife a great team-mate in all such areas. Devotions is just one. We homeschooled, too.

    But I took control of the homeschooling when the kids were 7th and up.
     
  11. Lorelei

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    Thanks all for your responses! I just find it such a blessing that my husband is wanting us to have a devotional and prayer time. I would much rather lead it if it makes him more comfortable then not have one at all!

    ~Lorelei
     
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    If you want him to ever lead then don't. Men are all or nothing folks. If you start taking over his God-given role he will never do it and will slowly give it all over to you.

    Why won't he do it if he wants it to be done? Does he feel inadequate because you have taken control in other areas as well and he figures what the heck let her do this as well? Is he a poor reader? Does he need some training from the pastor? If he has issues and you just do it then the issues never get resolved.

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  13. Lorelei

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    Maverick,

    I understand your concerns, but you must realize that if I were a "take control" type woman then I probably wouldn't have been concerned enough about this question to ask it.

    Not all husbands are mature christians, not all of our husbands are walking with the Lord as they should, and some of our husbands are not even saved. Under those circumstances, I asked what is proper.

    Shall we have no family study at all until he takes it over? It's kind of hard to expect a non christian man to do that is it not? How can we win them over by example if we refrain from doing anything until the man decides to do it himself?

    When the man is a new christian, or "backslidden" (whatever term you would like to use), he isn't going to know how or have the will to do what is expected, but he at least finds the desire to say "hey will you pray"? Shall I say "No, not until you grow up?" or shall I submit to his wishes and pray? Which "law" is greater, to "submit" and pray since he asked, or to not lead in the home even when the leader asks you do so? See the problem I am having. Please show me a reference where it says that a woman may not read or pray even if her husband asks her to.

    I do not "teach", for I read and let the Spirit reveal it's truth. We may both comment on what is read, but never do I prepare a "study" and teach it.

    ~Lorelei
     
  14. Ransom

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    Lorelei said:

    Is it ok for a woman to lead in the Bible reading/study/devotional and prayer time for her family if her husband prefers it that way?

    Absolutely. Why should this be wrong? The husband being the spiritual head of the household does not mean he may not entrust his wife to the spiritual education of his children. I'm sure not a few husbands prefer it that way because their wives are better than they are at it.

    Remember, Timothy was brought up in the Scriptures by his mother and grandmother (2 Tim. 1:5) - and Paul thanks God for it.
     

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