To the pastors here: Would You marry unbelievers, or Mixed marriages?

My husband will marry two saved people - if the parents are in agreement and we meet for premarital counseling with the couple for 6 sessions before they marry.

My husband will marry two unsaved people because they are not unequally yoked. We will do some premarital counseling with them as well. He has done a few for people in our community and it's opened a number of great ministry opportunities. He will always bring the Gospel into the wedding as well. Hey, that's what you get when you ask a Christian pastor to marry you!

My husband will not marry an unsaved person and a saved person.

 

Disagree on both points.
Ann gave a good counter point to your first statement - as far as between a man and a woman. A marrage is much better when the Lord is included. Are you then saying a couple are living in sin if they marry and are not saved?

As far as divorce - suppose a Christian couple wanted you to marry them - and both of their former spouses had remarried?

Lets take this a step further. Suppose a married couple (both previously married) wanted to join your church. Would you reccomend they divorce and re-marry their orginal spouse?

 

Our county has no Justice of the Peace so the Immigration Department and County Clerk's office call on me.

I always do premarital counseling. I will marry two Christians. I will marry two unregenerate. I will not marry "mixed" couples. I will marry people of the same race (both humans, the only race) no matter ethnicity. I will marry in cases where there is divorce or pre-martial cohabiting.

I always do a religious-based ceremony, with the Gospel and with prayer. There are judges available for totally secular marriages

But marriage is GOOD for society. It helps people "do right" and I am happy to assist them in correct choices (rather than shacking up). I do not give false assurance that because a person has a religious (vs a civil) ceremony that it is any guarantee of a successful marriage.

I also have served on the board of the food bank, help at the rescue mission, support the crisis pregnancy centers, etc. All of which are GOOD for society, even though not all the people or all the workers are Christian or evangelical.

I count this as an almsdeed for my fellow man (and woman)

 

John 4:16-18
Jesus said to her, "Go, call your husband, and come here."​

The woman answered him, "I have no husband."
Jesus said to her, "You are right in saying, 'I have no husband'; for you have had five husbands, and the one you now have is not your husband. What you have said is true."

She was presently unmarried (shacking up). She had been married five times. Would anyone say she was "regenerate"? No.

But she was "married". Marriage is not just a spiritual commitment, but an action of society.

While it is up to the conscience of an ordained elder if he would desire to perform a non-Christian wedding for the sake of society, I have no issue with it.

 

In the cases that my husband has done, they were community weddings. One couple was friends with a woman we know from the yacht club who is unsaved. Hubby did her husband's funeral (he was a man we used to race with) and now these friends of hers from Sweden wanted to get married here. So they had it at the yacht club and needed a pastor - and since hubby is a member there and she knows him, she asked him. Many people want a minister to do the wedding because it just seems more "right" to them.

So that is an example of how it might happen. It's kind of like having a pastor on call for funerals of people they don't know - pastors get to be known in a small community and are asked to do pastoral things even for the unsaved.