Question for Youth Workers

Is she a stay at home mom?
Is she committed to being a stay at home mom?
What are her roles as a wife and mother?
What does God's Word mean to her?
Does she have a quiet time?
What kinds of books does she like to read(this tells a lot about someone)...find out authors,too.
Does she feel like her husband is the spritual head of there home,why or why not?

Those are just some ideas I thought of-great idea to interview her. Hope it goes well.

 

I am a pastor's wife. In addition to what Molly replied, some questions I have been asked are:

Are you supportive of your husband's ministry?
How do you handle controversy?
Will you take an active role in your husband's ministry?

 

I personally, do not believe you should question his wife like you are questioning the man you are considering for youth pastor. There is a difference in asking general questions to see if she is a believer or not but if you are quizzing her like you naturally should her husband, I believe that isn't right. I know I am biased because I can remember my parents being quizzed and even us children asked about what we believed concerning this and that etc. It was totally ridiculous and unfair in my opinion.

 

On the contrary to the last post, I think the wife should be questioned. My wife is a ministry wife. She makes or breaks my ministry. Fortunately, she "makes" my ministry. We have seen otherwise (unsupportive, unhappy, grumpy, complainers)...it HURTS the ministry. The girls in the youth group MUST HAVE an excellent, godly youth pastor's wife!!!! QUESTION HER, BY ALL MEANS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I think it's a bit more important to ask her questions about who she is rather than about her husband's ministry. Find out what she feels she can offer to the church and to the youth as well and where her heart is for the youth.

Karen

 

Being single, I am not how I feel about interviewing the spouse. I am on a church staff myself, and I know they couldn't interview mine.

If I were married, I feel like my spouse and I would be serving in a ministry together, or at minimum, he would be very supportive of Children's Ministry, and so there would be no doubt where he would be coming from, and I don't believe I would have problems with him being interviewed.

But then in another way, it isn't the spouse doing the job. It is the one you are considering. I know how important the spouse is---in many ministries they have either literally ruined it for their spouses, or they have been the mainstay for success, aside from Christ.

There have been times in churches I have been in where they should have taken more time with the spouse--maybe to keep them from considering someone. On the other hand, there have been spouses they should have left well enough alone because they were great people.

 

I'm glad you are taking the time to question his wife. Our old youth minister let it be known that his wife was half of a team. No, she held no paid position, but she was there for us. You know, she will have an active part in the ministry, probably especially to the girls. We always knew that we could talk to David, but it was sometimes easier and more comfortable for us to talk with his wife.

 

It is vitally important that the man and his family set a good example for the youth,so it is important to know her and what she is like. I can not stress this enough! You need to know a lot about both of them.

 

I guess unless you have been there, you cannot understand what I was trying to say in my previous post to this topic. You definately need a godly woman for the youth to look up to but she isn't the one interviewing for the staff position in the church. I know how it is as I'm a PK!!I witnessed people grilling my parents about everything under the sun. Even when I was young, I am now 45 years old by the way, I thought it unfair and definately un-christian how some of these pulpit committess conducted their interviews. My brother, sister and I were even asked about how active we'd be in this or that activity (R.A.'s, G.A."s ,although it's called Acteens now)at the church. Give me a break...does everytime the church door opened sound involved enough???I guess only others that lived the life my family and I did would understand how I feel about this subject.