Featured Baptists Should Only Marry Baptists

My wife's father is a Charasmatic preacher. She was going to his church before we got married but was confused about the teachings. For instance, they put her in front of the church, laid hands on her and 'commanded' her to speak in tongues. When she couldnt, one of the elderly women proclaimed that she must "not be saved".

Also, she got really uncomfortable a couple of times at Bible studies held in their house where her father or another elder would "command" God to show a miracle, or to heal someone, or to make them speak in tongues. She was afraid to "command" God to do anything.

Anyway, when we first got married there was a lot of problems between me and her, and me and her family because of me being Baptist. (BTW, her father was raised as a Baptist but left when he was told he could not be a pastor because him and his wife had both been divorced)

As time went on, my wife came to hold to more conservative Baptist beliefs, and her parents have eventually grown to accept that. But at first it was a real problem.

John

 

Think that the Apostle was referencing overall relationships between saved and unsaved in those "proof texts" used!

Do think that even 2 Christians though could be "unequally yoked" in sense IF say one was a serious/maturing saint, while other wanted to just be saved and stay a spiritual infant!
Also, IF one is say a member of a pentacostal curch, another IFB, that would be probably be hard to work around!

 

How about Eternal Security vs Conditional Salvation?

Or Cal vs Regular Christian?

What do you teach the kids?

John

 

This is clearly a dangerous Baptist preacher.

 

Are you Jesusfan/Dachaser1?

Yes. I think you are.

 

My wife and I teach our 2 sons the "basics" of the faith for right now, items such as the bible is infallible, God is a trinity, saved by faith/grace alone etc!

What also helps in that we attend a church with active youth ministry, and they also reinforce doctrines of the faith at their youth ages!

 

Could you give a few examples?

The more I study the more I see ignorance coming from Christians. Recently I read that the study of Judaism, the historical background of scripture was dropped many years ago. It was replaced by contemporary teachings that were more suited for listeners and application rather than the truth resulting from a study day by day. The aim has been turn-arounds, quick growth, results, and not the results of carefully studying the historical background of scripture. Over the years I have heard some much of what smacks of a "repeat after me" theology or a "what does it mean to you" "Bible study."

Imagine what would ahppen if we started leading people through a careful background study of the scripture. Most current systematic theologies would disappear simply because they are nonsense and do nothing with the apparent contradictions in scripture. Most systematic theologies would be history and people would have a hungry thirst for God's word. The words of scripture would lift off the page and have life as we discover the true historical meaning of the words on the page.

The past year I have devoted my time to the study of historical discipleship and the Sermon On The Mount and as I have read book on historical Judaism I am shocked at how little I knew about that. Fortunately it got started in seminary by two of my professors. Both were teaching languages.

 

The Lord has taken care of my marriage, because when I was 24 and met my wife, I was love struck. She was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen, and still is, but quite frankly, the fact I was a conservative Presbyterian and she was a Baptist made no difference. I did not care if she was a Democrat or not. My eyes were so glazed over I would have married her if she went to the church of whats happening now.

Thankfully, the Lord worked it all out. Looking back, I will say this. As close as Presbyterian and Baptist are, had both of us been devout to our faiths at the time, the differences would have had to be dealt with. In this case, it would have been the issues of baptism, alcohol, elder rule, and other minor issues.

All I know is I am married to the person the Lord chose for me, and the love of my life.

 

I am not in love with the name Baptist. I am in love with what it once stood for.

Marriage is who I am in love with, and it happens to be my wife.

There are so many different baptist churches to-day, I am not even sure I love baptist anymore, but I stick with it, ignore what I consider falsehoods, and continue to preach what I believe to be biblical.

I think a true marriage can work the same way IF we have the will.

Cheers,

Jim

By the way, I was married in Church of England, and wife has remained a baptist-Anglican all her life. We have managed.

 

Clearly your opinion & we do know what opinions are like, dont we? :laugh:

 

Those who know what they do not know are eager to learn more but their critics know very little and are satisfied to remain ignorant.

 

You have a nose like a bloodhound. Look at where his address is. He's like "whack-a-mole". You bop him on the head, and he pops out of anutter hole. BTW, I had not caught this, and probably wouldn't have, either.

 

The last three would be easy, I would say don't do it. Choice D I would strongly discourage it. Choice C I would probably say expect some differences in your marriage that are going to have to be dealt with. A and B, I would say congratulations, and be sure to keep Christ at the center of your marriage.

 

I asked my wife about this thread.

She said she can't give me an answer because she married a "heathern". :smilewinkgrin:

John

 

If they could not come an agreement on how and where to worship and they are both Baptists, it seems to me there are other problems that should be solved before marriage ever starts. You asked how would one counsel them, and my answer, unless other problems were present, I would not. How the two solve the problem is between them and the Lord. It would be my hope that the ABC would go to the IFB, since those are the two choices. If they could not agree to alternate Sundays or go to one church, then they would go to seperate churches. As I said above, if there are two Baptists wanting to get married that cannot agree on that, then there are other problems. If both agree, I do not see anything wrong with going to two churches, but it seems kind of ridiculous in your example, since common sense dictates a family worships together, especially with kids. Going to seperate churches by agreement seems to me would be more of a solution to Baptist and Church of Christ, or some combination like that.

 

Most any pastor has met some Baptists who are members of a church but are not believers. So why have such a low standard of marrying a Baptist?

 

In using 2 Cor. 6:14 to teach that Baptists should only marry other Baptists is to conclude a number of things: 1. That Paul was teaching such. 2. That non-Baptists are unbelievers.

I don't think this Baptist pastor wants to go there. But who knows?